TeenHelp
Support Forums Today's Posts

Get Advice Connect with TeenHelp Resources
HelpLINK Facebook     Twitter     Tumblr     Instagram    Hotlines    Safety Zone    Alternatives


You are not registered or have not logged in

Hello guest! (Not a guest? Log in above!)

As a guest on TeenHelp you are only able to use some of our site's features. By registering an account you will be able to enjoy unlimited access to our site, and will be able to:

  • Connect with thousands of teenagers worldwide by actively taking part in our Support Forums and Chat Room.
  • Find others with similar interests in our Social Groups.
  • Express yourself through our Blogs, Picture Albums and User Profiles.
  • And much much more!

Signing up is free, anonymous and will only take a few moments, so click here to register now!


Self Harm If you or someone you know is struggling with self harm and needs advice or alternatives, we're here to help.

Closed Thread
 
Thread Tools Search this Thread
  (#1 (permalink)) Old
ChemKitten Offline
Member
Welcome me, I'm new!
*
 
ChemKitten's Avatar
 
Name: Ali
Gender: Female
Location: Earth

Posts: 9
Blog Entries: 1
Join Date: November 7th 2013

Question Should I show my friend my self harm? - November 13th 2013, 02:23 AM

My friend knows I self harm, but I don't know if showing her is a good idea. There is no new, fresh cuts. Only scars. They are on my wrists and my upper arm. Please tell me what to do!!

And DO NOT tell me to stop. I don't want to and I will not stop cutting.
   
  (#2 (permalink)) Old
Hypothesis. Offline
Not significant.

TeenHelp Veteran
*************
 
Hypothesis.'s Avatar
 
Name: Dez
Age: 23
Gender: They/them.
Location: Connecticut, USA

Posts: 19,317
Blog Entries: 139
Join Date: November 16th 2010

Re: Should I show my friend my self harm? - November 13th 2013, 03:05 AM

Hey there,

Maybe you can talk to her about what she'd prefer doing? For instance, since you are considering showing her, you can approach her one day somewhere private and ask her if you can show her the scars. That way, you won't just be showing her without warning, and you'd be giving her the option to say no. Maybe you can also tell her a bit about why you want to show her, such as that it'll make you feel less hidden or that you think it may help you get better support (or whatever your reason may be) so she doesn't think that it's just something random. But, if you think it will be beneficial to you to show her the scars, you can try it, but just make sure you ask first, just in case.

You don't have to hide the scars if you don't want to, though!

-Dez


   
  (#3 (permalink)) Old
.:Bibliophile:. Offline
PM me anytime!

TeenHelp Veteran
*************
 
.:Bibliophile:.'s Avatar
 
Gender: Just me

Posts: 16,874
Blog Entries: 1770
Join Date: January 18th 2009

Re: Should I show my friend my self harm? - November 13th 2013, 03:19 AM

Hey there,

I agree with everything that Dez has said. Talk to your friend about it before doing it so that she is given a chance to say no and so that she is aware of what is going to happen. It could be beneficial to talk to her about your reasons behind wanting to show her your scars as well. Also, showing someone your scars can be a really personal decision to make and so you have to be sure that you are 100% comfortable with your friend seeing your scars.

I am wishing you the best of luck.


|Lead Moderator|Newsletter Officer|
   
Closed Thread

Bookmarks

Tags
cut, friend, harm, self harm, show

Thread Tools Search this Thread
Search this Thread:

Advanced Search

Posting Rules
You may not post new threads
You may not post replies
You may not post attachments
You may not edit your posts

BB code is On
Smilies are On
[IMG] code is On
HTML code is Off
Trackbacks are Off
Pingbacks are Off
Refbacks are Off




All material copyright 1998-2019, TeenHelp.
Terms | Legal | Privacy | Conduct | Complaints

Powered by vBulletin®.
Copyright ©2000-2019, Jelsoft Enterprises Ltd.
Search engine optimization by vBSEO.
Theme developed in association with vBStyles.