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Exclamation Showing my cuts - December 12th 2013, 12:04 AM

I'm in a really depressed point in my life right now. I've been self harming since 7th grade and now I'm in 10th. My self harm was getting better, but now it's really horrible. I've shown some of my trusted friends my cuts so I won't feel hidden. Is this a good idea? Please help!!!!
   
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Re: Showing my cuts - December 12th 2013, 12:50 AM

Hi there,

I think that it's fine if you show friends that you trust so you don't feel as hidden. Remember that you don't have to show people you don't feel comfortable with knowing, but as long as you trust these friends, it is okay to show them. You can ask them to be a bit of a support system for you, people you can go to when you are having a difficult time so you can talk through everything and just have a reminder that someone cares. Other people you can speak to are family, teachers, guidance counselors, school nurses, club advisers and coaches, doctors, therapists, or other trusted adults, and they will all be able to help you as well. But, as long as your friends are comfortable with seeing, I don't think that there is anything wrong with letting them in on what is going on. They may have some questions if they don't understand fully, but maybe if you explain things a bit to them they will be able to help.

Do you know what it is that is triggering you to self harm in the first place? I'm assuming it has something to do with being in a depressed point, but if you are ever unsure of what it is that is triggering you, one thing you can do is keep a journal. In it, take special note of your urges by writing down the date and time, where you were, what was happening, and how you felt. You can even write how you dealt, such as if you self harmed or not. Then when you are calmer you can look back and notice any patterns or events that may be causing you to self harm. But, even if you know your triggers all the time, journals are still a great place to vent.

Speaking of venting, it may help to express your emotions in different ways, such as writing, art, or music. Exercise is another good way to release pent up stress. That way, you can get out all your emotions in safer, healthier ways. This list of alternatives to self harm has even more healthier, safer ways to cope.

But, I do think that it is a good idea to get support from your trusted friends, and as long as they are comfortable with it and you are sure about it, you can show them your cuts.

You can do this!

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Re: Showing my cuts - December 12th 2013, 02:13 AM

If you trust your friends, like Dez said, then it's probably a good idea to tell them. I showed three of my friends and told two more about it, and it's probably the most liberating experience that I've ever had. I think it can help a person stop hiding what's going on. It gives them somebody to talk to and a way to feel less alone.
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