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help? - April 3rd 2014, 04:42 AM

First of all, no I havn't harmed myself today. My problem is that I scratch my arm till I get red lines when I'm angry fusterated or some feeling that is similar to that that I just can't figure out how to describe. I need help coming up with something as an alternitive that is equally as quick (accessible so that I don't end up not having whatever needed in order to do it) and that works similarly. I use scratching because its quick (or at least thats why I think I use it) and I had a moment today where i felt like doing it becuase my first reaction to certain things (/emotions, certain things cause those emotions so...) is to want to scrach, the only reason I managed not to was because I am aware that its self harm... so help?
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Re: help? - April 3rd 2014, 01:32 PM

Hey there,

If you're intention when you scratch is to harm yourself, than it is self-harm. The severity of type of injury doesn't matter. What matters is that you're feeling the need to harm yourself and you are engaging in it. Here's a thread that talks about the forms of self-harm. It might help you a little bit!

Try checking out the self-harm alternatives page! There are a lot of alternatives on there, so try some until you find what works for you! As you're looking for something quick, I'll make a few suggestions. You could try a hair tie as long as you're safe with it. When you feel upset, pull it upwards and let it go to give a little bit of feeling to your wrist. Be careful with this one as some people hurt themselves doing this. I have found a stress ball beneficial. Maybe you could carry one around with you and use it when you need it. Lastly, if there is something small that you find calming such as a picture or a ribbon, you could carry that around and use that.

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Re: help? - April 3rd 2014, 08:27 PM

Hey there,

I'm sorry you are going through this. But you are right scratching yourself is considered self-harm even though you aren't breaking the skin which by what you explained is the case.

Anyways here is the link to the alternatives thread. There is a long list of them so you should be able to find something to use. Like the person above me said you could try a rubber band or hair tye but you have to be VERY careful. I know when I did that I did it so hard I would bruise myself and sometimes cut myself with the rubber band. So if you do use that please be very very careful. You could also carry around a red pen and when you want to scratch yourself draw red lines like you scratch yourself.

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Re: help? - April 4th 2014, 10:49 AM

Hey there,

I have heard of people using hair ties or rubber bands to give themselves a sensation. Make sure if you do this, though, you are safe with it, because if you do it too much or too hard there IS a chance of getting bruising from it.

I think that in general maybe you need more things to do with your hands. You can carry something like a stress ball, Rubik's Cube, or Play Doh with you for example, or maybe draw lines on yourself with a pen or marker instead of actually scratching?


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