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Hiding scars at doctors appointment - December 11th 2014, 02:48 PM

I have been self harm free for about a year but I still have quite noticable scars on the top of my left arm and my left thigh. The problem is I'm going to the doctors tomorrow because of several problems one being chest pain so I'm probably going to have to take of my top to show the doctor where it hurts how can I do this without showing my self harm scars also my mum will be in the room with me and doesn't know about my self harm is there anything i cans do or wear that will hide it also my self harm scars are raised so make up won't help.
   
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Re: Hiding scars at doctors appointment - December 11th 2014, 06:11 PM

Say that you don't feel comfterable taking your top all the way off with your mom in the room. Your mom may get suspicious but will most likely oblige. If the doctor notices the scars, just ask him/her not to tell your mom, that you'd like to tell her on your own time.


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Re: Hiding scars at doctors appointment - December 11th 2014, 08:03 PM

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Congratulations on being free for a year! That's amazing.

You don't have to have your mom in the room if you're uncomfortable with that. You can just let your doctor (or your mom) know that you'd rather be in the room without your mom and your doctor should honor those wishes.

You can use makeup to help cover them up if you have access to some. Honestly, doctors have seen everything before and they're trained to deal with those things. If your doctor asks about your scars just make it clear that self-harm was something you did in the past and be sure to tell them that you no longer engage in it. They are mandated reporters and they're supposed to tell your parents if you are under the age of eighteen, but if they know you no longer do it they might not say anything. If it helps, my doctor saw my scars and never said anything to my parents about them.

Good luck with your appointment! Feel free to keep us posted.


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Re: Hiding scars at doctors appointment - December 11th 2014, 08:42 PM

Hey,
You could tell your mom you want to do it one your own. As a way of getting more self-dependent. Your mom will probably be proud of you.

And in my country when you are older then 16 doctors aren't aloud to share information without your consent so you really should look into how that works in yours.

And I went to my doctor to get referred to a therapist for my SH. He didn't act shocked or tell my parents. Just a bit concerned.
Besides if you tell him you stopped why wouldn't he believe you if you only have old scars anyway.


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Re: Hiding scars at doctors appointment - December 11th 2014, 10:25 PM

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Congratulations on being free for a year! That's amazing.

You don't have to have your mom in the room if you're uncomfortable with that. You can just let your doctor (or your mom) know that you'd rather be in the room without your mom and your doctor should honor those wishes.

You can use makeup to help cover them up if you have access to some. Honestly, doctors have seen everything before and they're trained to deal with those things. If your doctor asks about your scars just make it clear that self-harm was something you did in the past and be sure to tell them that you no longer engage in it. They are mandated reporters and they're supposed to tell your parents if you are under the age of eighteen, but if they know you no longer do it they might not say anything. If it helps, my doctor saw my scars and never said anything to my parents about them.

Good luck with your appointment! Feel free to keep us posted.
With my dad being a doctor, I actually know a bit about this, doctors don't have to report it at all of you're not currently a threat to yourself or others. With you having been self harm free for a year that's not the case and he is bound by HIPPA not to tell or report it because you're not currently a threat to yourself or others. He could actually lose his license for telling your mom. Don't worry about covering it up so much just have your mom leave the room.


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Re: Hiding scars at doctors appointment - December 11th 2014, 11:11 PM

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With my dad being a doctor, I actually know a bit about this, doctors don't have to report it at all of you're not currently a threat to yourself or others. With you having been self harm free for a year that's not the case and he is bound by HIPPA not to tell or report it because you're not currently a threat to yourself or others. He could actually lose his license for telling your mom. Don't worry about covering it up so much just have your mom leave the room.
Thanks for clearing that up! That's what I figured - as long as you're not currently a danger to yourself or to others it doesn't have to be reported.


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Re: Hiding scars at doctors appointment - December 12th 2014, 03:36 AM

Hey,

You can always say that you don't want your mom in the room because you are getting older and you think you are okay being there by yourself. You can also say that you'd feel more comfortable taking your top off with her waiting outside.

As for the scars, can you perhaps explain to your doctor that you have been self harm free for a year now? Perhaps if you explain that you are done with self harm now, they'll be more likely to not tell?

Congratulations on being a year free! I hope everything goes well, and that the doctor is able to take care of you!

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Re: Hiding scars at doctors appointment - December 12th 2014, 09:52 AM

Hey, I'm back from the doctors and she didn't have to examine me as the pain is most likely due to stress. Thank you all so much for your help and lovely comments.
   
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Re: Hiding scars at doctors appointment - December 12th 2014, 12:47 PM

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Thanks for clearing that up! That's what I figured - as long as you're not currently a danger to yourself or to others it doesn't have to be reported.
Also, to report it, the person must express that they have plans-this cannot be based on a simple conclusion. Current or recent scars are the only exception. However, i have had my doctor notice recent self harm scars and he didn't report it since they were singular and not multiple and also shallow and I expressed regret over it but said it was only a momentary setback.


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