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Question Doctors - February 23rd 2015, 07:27 PM

What happens when your pedatrician finds out. How do i go about telling them not to tell my mother.. I found out today that i have an appointment tomorrow and I am freaking out. I really cut my arm up bad yesterday and i am screwed i was hoping that i had a few weeks so they could clear up. Plus its my physical evaluation so i am kind of screwed. But how do they react i know it differs but if you have experiences can you tell me how they went so i can kind of expect what will happen. Thanks
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Re: Doctors - February 23rd 2015, 08:08 PM

My doctor DID end up telling my mother. But she talked to me first (didn't give me an option of telling or not though) and in that discussion she asked how long I have been doing it and how I have been feeling lately and made sure that I was getting help and was safe.

Maybe your doctor will agree to not tell your mom if you can convince them that you are safe. If you have any reasons why you don't want your mom to know you can also explain these in as much detail as possible and see if that convinces your doctor.

However, at least in the US doctors may be considered mandatory reporters.

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Re: Doctors - February 23rd 2015, 08:32 PM

None of my primary care doctors have said anything to my mom, however, my body was scarred and not freshly wounded. I'm sure that they did notice, but nothing was said to me or to my mom. I did have a specialist and his assistant asked me about my scars and I told her that my mom was aware of my self-harm and that I was safe so she didn't say anything.

If your doctor is going to tell your mom, hopefully he or she will at least discuss it with you first so you're both on the same page.

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Re: Doctors - February 24th 2015, 02:35 AM

My pediatrician called my parents and told them he had a bed reserved at a hospital for me. I went in to have stitches removed. They had to explain to him that I was getting help and didn't need to be hospitalized. He had been my pediatrician since I was a baby and we had a really special bond so it was all good. I was actually surprised he cared that much. He still asks my brother about me (he takes his kids there).

Honestly, I don't know if all pediatricians do this. I think the fact that you have fresh cuts might concern them. If you are worried about them telling and you have some reasons as to why you don't want you mother to know you can explain that to them and hope for the best.

If they do end up telling your mom hopefully she will take it well and will help you work on getting the help that you deserve.

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