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Relapse - March 11th 2015, 10:51 AM

I selfharmed last night, after being almost 50 days clean. It's quite deep, probably doesn't need stitching but it's very painful. That's not what hurts the most though, I don't know how to deal with the dissapointmemt of ruining my clean streak. What should I do?

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Re: Relapse - March 11th 2015, 03:39 PM


I think that as far as dealing with this, deal with it as a temporary setback, not something that ruined you forever. Tell yourself that you went almost FIFTY DAYS. That is a huge amount of time and you should be so proud of yourself! Going that amount of time proves that you are very capable of being self harm free. Instead of using the relapse as a way to start self harming again, use it as a motivation to go even longer next time!

It may help if you identify what triggered you to self harm in the first place, if you aren't already sure. That way you can solve the problem or develop coping mechanisms in case the problem pops up again. Identifying what the triggers were will help prevent these things from coming back in the future or at least help you recognize signs that you may be getting triggered before it gets to a bad point.

Alternatives are really great ways to avoid self harm. Maybe instead of feeling disappointed, make an action plan of things you can do next time you get triggered. For example, write down some alternatives to try, things to do, places to go, or people to talk to. That way you have tons of options if you get triggered again instead of self harming.

So, instead of feeling disappointed, pick yourself up, brush yourself off, and start over. I can tell you are motivated to quit and that truly will get you far!


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Re: Relapse - March 12th 2015, 06:20 PM

I agree with Dez in that you should use this as motivation to start back up again without self-harm. All of your progress is still there; you went almost fifty days which shows that you're definitely capable of being self-harm free for a long time! Remember that recovery is a process, not perfection. Recovery is a long learning process but you're going great! I think what you do after relapsing is more important than the relapse itself. So keep going, you can do this.

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Re: Relapse - March 12th 2015, 11:40 PM


I agree with both of the above posters. Even though you self harmed the other day, you still went a very long time without it, which is an amazing accomplishment. All your progress hasn't been erased, just set back a bit. Now that you know you can go fifty days, try and make it even longer. One relapse doesn't mean you're back into the habit of self harm, it means you relapsed. Try to stay positive, think about other things, and maybe take a look at the alternatives list.

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