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Started Again - February 16th 2017, 08:44 PM

Hi,

Recently I have started self-harming again. Something really bad happened in November and since then I have been harming myself again. I have tried using the strategies that I used to use but they don't seem to work. I want to stop before I get into the vicious cycle.

I have no support e.g. counsellor, therapist as I was discharged from my therapist. The DR I used to see for my self - harm/depression has left and the other DRs are not as helpful in referring me.



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Re: Started Again - February 17th 2017, 12:23 AM

I'm sorry to hear you're struggling so much. You said your other doctors aren't as helpful in referring you. Can you look elsewhere for another doctor or a therapist? Perhaps you can look online to see what you can find.

You said the alternatives you used to use aren't working. I think sometimes it's possible to get too accustomed to alternatives. It might help if you try some new ones. What kind of alternatives did you use in the past? Should you decide to look for new ones, something to consider would be what you are looking for in self-harm right now. Is it for the release, the blood, or the ability to take care of something physical as opposed to the emotions you're feeling? If you know what you're looking for through self-harm you may be able to find alternatives that better suit you. For instance, if you self-harm for the blood, you could color in red markers or colored pencils.

You said you want to stop before you get too far into it again and that drive to stop in itself will get you very far. You can do this. I believe in you and I hope you believe in yourself as well.


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Re: Started Again - February 17th 2017, 12:42 AM

Hi Meera,

I'm sorry to hear that you've had a relapse. Try not to dwell on it as it will just continue to make you feel horrible which will then result in you self harming again, and then it will just turn into a nonstop cycle.

I've gone into recovery many times, and most of the time I have ended up relapsing, so it does happen. As you mentioned you tried all the strategies. However, did you also try the elastic band one? I find that one helps the most.

As Cassie mentioned, are you able to find someone else to give you a referral? If worst comes to worst you could always go to your local emergency department and talk to one of the emergency doctors. They are usually pretty good with giving referrals. When I was taken to the hospital a couple years ago under the mental health act, they got me in to see a specialist.

Also, you can always try calling a Hotline (Click here) when you feel an urge, and hopefully they can help you feel better so you don't have to harm yourself.

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Re: Started Again - February 19th 2017, 02:30 AM

Hey, Meera!

I'm sorry to hear you have relapsed, and about what happened in November. You didn't deserve to have to go through that, no one does. Despite how much you are struggling, it shows strength that you still wish to continue your recovery. I'm so happy that you do because you deserve recovery from self-harm.

You mentioned you've been using your previous coping strategies and I'm wondering what those are if you don't mind me asking? I was curious as to whether you've tried out new coping methods such as trying out new things on the alternatives list, or engaging in a relaxing and distracting hobby such as coloring for example? As Cassie mentioned, sometimes you may get too accustomed to certain alternatives to the point where they become ineffective so trying out new things may be helpful for sure.

Not having support can make it a lot harder when you're struggling with self-harm among other events. Are you able to see a different GP to see about a better referral, or the hospital as Brittany mentioned? Perhaps you could check into seeing your previous therapist that you were discharged from. Aside from professional help and support, have you thought about going to a support group? If there are any in or around your area, it may be beneficial for you to connect with others who are going through what you are. You deserve support, Meera.

There are hotlines you can call as Brittany mentioned, and there are online chat sources as well such as Live Help here on TeenHelp. You can reach out to any of us too. If you'd like to PM me to write out anything on your mind, I'd be happy to listen. In the meantime, take care and take it one step at a time. You can do this.
   
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Re: Started Again - February 19th 2017, 11:10 AM

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I'm sorry to hear you're struggling so much. You said your other doctors aren't as helpful in referring you. Can you look elsewhere for another doctor or a therapist? Perhaps you can look online to see what you can find.

You said the alternatives you used to use aren't working. I think sometimes it's possible to get too accustomed to alternatives. It might help if you try some new ones. What kind of alternatives did you use in the past? Should you decide to look for new ones, something to consider would be what you are looking for in self-harm right now. Is it for the release, the blood, or the ability to take care of something physical as opposed to the emotions you're feeling? If you know what you're looking for through self-harm you may be able to find alternatives that better suit you. For instance, if you self-harm for the blood, you could color in red markers or colored pencils.

You said you want to stop before you get too far into it again and that drive to stop in itself will get you very far. You can do this. I believe in you and I hope you believe in yourself as well.
Thank you for you reply Cassie. That sounds like a good idea of looking online for another doctor or therapist because I know I need the help but the doctors at my surgery are not helpful, so it will be good for me to find someone who is helpful. I started self harming again because of being unable to be in control of the emotions I feel from what happened and also for the release.

The alternatives I used to use for distracting myself from the urges were using a stress ball, punching holes in a paper and making pva glue dry on paper and then pealing it off.

Yes, I want to stop because last time I ended up in a vicious cycle which was hard to get out of. Thank you for believing in me. x


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Re: Started Again - February 19th 2017, 11:20 AM

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Hi Meera,

I'm sorry to hear that you've had a relapse. Try not to dwell on it as it will just continue to make you feel horrible which will then result in you self harming again, and then it will just turn into a nonstop cycle.

I've gone into recovery many times, and most of the time I have ended up relapsing, so it does happen. As you mentioned you tried all the strategies. However, did you also try the elastic band one? I find that one helps the most.

As Cassie mentioned, are you able to find someone else to give you a referral? If worst comes to worst you could always go to your local emergency department and talk to one of the emergency doctors. They are usually pretty good with giving referrals. When I was taken to the hospital a couple years ago under the mental health act, they got me in to see a specialist.

Also, you can always try calling a Hotline (Click here) when you feel an urge, and hopefully they can help you feel better so you don't have to harm yourself.

Stay Strong,
Brittany
Hi Brittany,

I have only gone into recovery a couple of times and each time have relapsed. I have never tried the elastic band strategy before - how does it work?

I will definitely look online for another doctor or therapist and if it does get bad before I find a therapist or doctor I could go to emergency department.

Thank you for the list of hotlines and will use that if I do have a really bad urge. X


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Re: Started Again - February 19th 2017, 11:35 AM

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Hey, Meera!

I'm sorry to hear you have relapsed, and about what happened in November. You didn't deserve to have to go through that, no one does. Despite how much you are struggling, it shows strength that you still wish to continue your recovery. I'm so happy that you do because you deserve recovery from self-harm.

You mentioned you've been using your previous coping strategies and I'm wondering what those are if you don't mind me asking? I was curious as to whether you've tried out new coping methods such as trying out new things on the alternatives list, or engaging in a relaxing and distracting hobby such as coloring for example? As Cassie mentioned, sometimes you may get too accustomed to certain alternatives to the point where they become ineffective so trying out new things may be helpful for sure.

Not having support can make it a lot harder when you're struggling with self-harm among other events. Are you able to see a different GP to see about a better referral, or the hospital as Brittany mentioned? Perhaps you could check into seeing your previous therapist that you were discharged from. Aside from professional help and support, have you thought about going to a support group? If there are any in or around your area, it may be beneficial for you to connect with others who are going through what you are. You deserve support, Meera.

There are hotlines you can call as Brittany mentioned, and there are online chat sources as well such as Live Help here on TeenHelp. You can reach out to any of us too. If you'd like to PM me to write out anything on your mind, I'd be happy to listen. In the meantime, take care and take it one step at a time. You can do this.
Hi Ellie,

Thank you for your reply. The alternatives I used to use for distracting myself from the urges were using a stress ball, punching holes in a paper and making pva glue dry on paper and then pealing it off. I have not tried anything from the alternative list but I will have a look and see which ones I like.

I am going to look for another GP for a better referral. I have never thought about going to a support group but it does sound like a good idea connecting and talking with others who have/are going through what I am, as only one of my friend knows what I am going through because she self harms but lives far away from me.

When I feel a very difficult urge I will definitely call the hotline. I have never tried using Live Help on here but will try using it when I feel down. Thank you for your support. I will definitely PM you if I need help at all or just someone who can listen. X


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Re: Started Again - February 19th 2017, 08:52 PM

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Thank you for you reply Cassie. That sounds like a good idea of looking online for another doctor or therapist because I know I need the help but the doctors at my surgery are not helpful, so it will be good for me to find someone who is helpful. I started self harming again because of being unable to be in control of the emotions I feel from what happened and also for the release.

The alternatives I used to use for distracting myself from the urges were using a stress ball, punching holes in a paper and making pva glue dry on paper and then pealing it off.

Yes, I want to stop because last time I ended up in a vicious cycle which was hard to get out of. Thank you for believing in me. x

If you decide to look online for a new therapist, I hope you find someone you're able to see!

You said you started self-harming again because you felt out of control of your emotions. While you can't help how you feel, from what I understand, cutting actually numbs those feelings; cutting makes it so that you can avoid them for a while but they will still remain. Maybe you can try to release some feelings, through crying, or through a creative form like writing or painting. Feelings can be difficult to cope with but if you release them, they probably won't feel as out of control and that could decrease your urge to self-harm over time.

Maybe you can try to find new alternatives you can use to help give you the release you're looking for. For instance, you could exercise. Exercising releases endorphins, which are also released when you self-harm. You may be able to get the same feelings from exercising which could help you over time.


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