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Relapse - April 29th 2017, 10:37 AM

After a year of being clean i replapsed last night. Disappointment in yourself is such a cruel feeling. I havent even told my girlfriend, the person i tell everything to. Is it completely terrible that i missed, even if it makes me feel terrible?
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Re: Relapse - April 29th 2017, 11:14 AM

Sorry to hear that you relapsed. Maybe you can read my support post if you havent.

I want to assure you that all your efforts are not wasted. All that matters is you are keep trying not to fall into self harm again. One relapse doesnt reset your counter much.

Think of self harm like an addiction. If you had try to rewire your brain not to do it for a year already, doing it once now will not damage the whole recoevery process, at most a bit. Its never back to zero just because of that one relapse.

I know you are feeling terrible now, but its okay. You will be free from self harm again I am sure. But I do encourage you to tell it to someone you trust, so that you will not bottle up your feelings anymore.

You are not even a bit terrible. You had done so great for a year. You can do this again and further than that! I know you can do better.

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Forgive other's imperfection, they will work hard about it once I point it out to them, just like what I should be doing.

On the other hand, never tolerate with my own mediocrity. Never slack and always strive improvement.

Never settle. Never give up.
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Re: Relapse - April 29th 2017, 02:42 PM

It is not terrible that you missed self-harm, even if it does make you feel bad. Using it as a coping skill for a while and then trying not to use it in recovery can naturally make you miss it.

Like it was already said, lapsing doesn't take away from all the work you put into being a year self-harm free. What you do after lapsing is important as well. You can pick yourself up, dust yourself off, and try again.

It may help to tell your girlfriend about this when you feel ready to. Perhaps you can let her know what she can do to support you right now. If you're not ready to tell her yet, maybe you can write about how you're feeling so you don't have to keep it inside.

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