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My parents walked in on me cutting. What do I do? They started to scream at me and tell me I was a useless peice of crap. they told me to kill myself. If they tell me to, I should do it, right? I give up. Yay.


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Re: Yay. - July 22nd 2017, 09:37 AM

Wow I am sorry your parents are so unsupportive! Usually this is where I say how parents love their children etc., but sometimes parents are so stressed out themselves, and not very well educated, and there may be other things going on with them, possibly relationship troubles, financial troubles, maybe one or both of them have developed a secret alcohol or drug addiction problem, etc.

And when parents have problems, the kids get stressed out too, and that can lead to some severe depression, which leads to cutting (which is weird, unless you've been there, then it somehow makes sense).

Anyway I wouldn't take advice from your parents as they obviously are way stressed out over something and perhaps not in their best frame of mind and possibly even worse. In fact I would say their advice is probably the worst possible advice any person could ever give, so I would definitely ask for a second opinion, and a third, and a fourth, and probably get 10 more opinions, and get them from people who aren't screaming, get them from people who are a bit more calm and rational, and you'll know when you've found the right person because instead of advice they'll ask what's wrong and start listening with a caring attitude, because you do matter.

I'd wait until the transient urge to die passes, because it's always a transient urge and it always passes if you can just wait it out, give the brain time to recover and come back online so it starts thinking properly again. Maybe go find someone safe to be with for a while. (That's what I do. I go to my "safety person".)

Sorry your parents do not provide a calm peaceful household for you to live in. Hopefully there is a calm peaceful place for you to retreat to at least once in a while, and rational loving people you can be with at least once in a while. We all need a break sometimes.
   
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Re: Yay. - July 22nd 2017, 01:01 PM

I am sorry to hear that your parents said that. As it has been said, parents are often stressed or concerned and this (though it is not an excuse) causes them to have unfortunate and even damaging responses. Maybe when things cool down a little bit you can confront them and discuss how you feel using "I" statements. If you're not comfortable verbalizing your feelings to them, you can write them down.

You are not a worthless piece of crap and you shouldn't kill yourself because your parents told you that you should. It is hard when other people speak like that but even though you cannot control how you feel you can work on how you want to cope and ending your life is not the answer.

Hopefully your parents did not mean what they said, but just said it in the heat of the moment. If they did mean what they said, however, know that what they said doesn't matter. It can seem like a lifetime away now, but as you get older, you'll have more independence. You will slowly gain more control of your life and the ignorance of other people won't matter all that much.

Can you talk to someone you trust in the meantime? Regardless, keep posting here as long as you'd like to. Getting things out of your mind can do a world of good sometimes.


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