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Urges suck - July 25th 2017, 05:57 AM

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I felt a rush when I had the razor but I've never cut before so I came here just to maybe get talked out of it.
   
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Unhappy Re: Urges suck - July 25th 2017, 08:19 AM

Hey,

I give you a lot of credit for coming here before making your decision.

That being said heres some reasons you shouldn't cut (from my own experiences):

First, once you start, it is incredibly difficult to stop. I know that sound like something that everyone says, but its true. You can cut once and say you're never going to cut again, but then the next time you get the slightest urge to cut, you'll find yourself with another scar. It may seem easy to stop later on, but in my case i promised my friend i would stop cutting back in march, and i'm still working not cutting.

Second, hiding new cuts are extremely difficult. Now, I don't know much about you, but its summer and sometimes when you wear long sleeves it seems suspicious. People tend to also use bracelets, and arm warmers, but even then, people question it. Unless you're cutting another place on your body, I can promise they will be just as hard to hide. I used makeup on mine, but that gets all over your clothes, and if the cut is new, the makeup tends to sting.

Also if you were to start, I can promise you you would always be worried about people seeing your cuts and scars, even if the cuts are covered, there will always be that worry of you're secret coming out. You would start pulling away from your friends and family because letting the, get too close would have them get too close to you're secret, and you slowly start to slip away from them. Until you finally admit you have a problem, which could be months even years later. You'll have too many scars to count that will always be there reminding you of what you've done. Then when you're parents find out they could agree to get you help by a therapist, or sending you away to a hospital somewhere. But 20 years later after you've stopped cutting, those scars will still be there, reminding you.

Please don't cut. We all love you here and we just don't want you to hurt yourself. You don't deserve it. I'm sorry if I scared you, but its true. I was too this when I first started out cutting and I didn't believe it. But every part of it turned out to be true.

If you feel the urge to cut, talk to someone, distract yourself.

PM me if you want, I'm always here to talk.

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Re: Urges suck - July 26th 2017, 01:55 PM

Hi,

Bianca listed some insight as to what self-harm is like, and reasons to stay away from it when you can. In addition to considering what she said, maybe you could think about what is making you feel this way. If you can track your thoughts and emotions you may be able to find what is triggering you. Then you can work on those triggers, thus decreasing the urges to cut.

Do you have someone you trust that you can share these feelings with? Maybe you could consider talking to a friend, family member, a teacher, or anyone you have a good relationship with so you don't have to do this alone. Blogging or journaling about your feelings can help you release them as well.

In the meantime, check out this self-harm alternatives thread. It has a lot of different techniques you can try to keep your mind distracted and busy while you're struggling.

Keep reaching out.


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