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Scratching/Biting - September 6th 2017, 05:29 AM

So, I've been noticing lately that when I am super stressed or fall into an negative thinking pattern, I'll use my nails and claw myself or scratch myself slightly hard, not enough to leave a mark, just not enough to hurt. I also find that I'll bite down on my finger hard, but also not enough to leave a mark.

I quit self-harming (cutting) 3.5 years ago.
I know this technically probably a version of self-harm, even though I'm typically unaware of it.
I still consider myself clean, I don't know if I should be concerned with this recent actions. Should I bring them up with my counselor? He doesn't think we should talk in depth unless it's actually happening... so I haven't mentioned anything yet, in case I'm overthinking.

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Re: Scratching/Biting - September 6th 2017, 07:46 AM

How about you carry a stress ball in your pocket? I think that should be able to replace your way of letting out stress.

If stress ball doesn't work for you, try talking to your counsellor again. He's here to listen and help.
   
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Re: Scratching/Biting - September 6th 2017, 11:34 PM

Like you said, even if you are not aware of it, it is a version of self-harm.

Carrying a stress ball or another object around such as a worry stone could help. You could also wear a bracelet or a hair tie so you can fidget with it.

Even though you aren't aware of it, maybe you can use self-talk and stop scratching or biting when you become aware of it. For instance, when you notice it, you can stop and then tell yourself something positive, like "It's okay, I'm stressed out right now but I can cope with this." Self talk can be beneficial especially when it is done over time.

You should definitely talk with your counselor if you're concerned about this. Talking about it now could possibly prevent this from worsening later on. You're not overtthinking this at all.

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Re: Scratching/Biting - September 8th 2017, 11:44 PM

Carry something with you to occupy your hands




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Re: Scratching/Biting - September 9th 2017, 06:55 PM

Thanks guy!
I typically always have something on me to play with since I'm a fairly fidgety person.
I think a big part of the issue is that I'm unconsciously doing this most of the time. I always realize I did in the middle of doing or after the fact that it's already done. That's the part I'm really not sure how to stop, since I'm not even aware it's happening. I e-mailed my counselor since my appointment isn't until next week. I'm trying to figure out what to do in the mean time.

When I am aware I've only done it a couple of times which doesn't seem to awful, but I know this is how it all starts and then it gets worse. I've been here before and I don't want to go down this road again.
   
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Re: Scratching/Biting - September 10th 2017, 07:59 PM

It is good that you normally have things with you to fidget with, but it can definitely be hard when you're not really aware that you're hurting yourself until you've already done it.

Hopefully your counselor can give you some coping techniques to help prevent this from worsening.


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