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Anyway, my wrists are so covered on cuts I have trouble hiding it now. So I moved on to my hips...am I ever going to be able to stop? I feel like such a failure.

If I am posting too much, let me know please. This is one of the only places I feel comfortable sharing this. Thanks.
   
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Re: Will I ever be able to stop? - August 4th 2018, 06:14 AM

.I went through a few periods of cutting as well, and it's defentily an addition. Although I've stoped, it still comes across my mind. In way, quitting was easy for me, but it varies with each person. I simply threw the blades away. But, just because you throw a blade away doesn't mean it's all over. No, it keeps coming back to your head. I recommend using a rubber band on your wrist or ankle to snap you out of the thought. But remember: glently snap it. Otherwise it's a new self harm mechanism you have to quit.

Trying talking to or writing a letter to an adult you trust about this as well. It helps to reach out to someone you know sometimes.

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Re: Will I ever be able to stop? - August 4th 2018, 01:16 PM

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.I went through a few periods of cutting as well, and it's defentily an addition. Although I've stoped, it still comes across my mind. In way, quitting was easy for me, but it varies with each person. I simply threw the blades away. But, just because you throw a blade away doesn't mean it's all over. No, it keeps coming back to your head. I recommend using a rubber band on your wrist or ankle to snap you out of the thought. But remember: glently snap it. Otherwise it's a new self harm mechanism you have to quit.

Trying talking to or writing a letter to an adult you trust about this as well. It helps to reach out to someone you know sometimes.

I hope things get better soon
Thank you. I am too scared to talk to any adults (I am 13) at the moment.
   
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Re: Will I ever be able to stop? - August 5th 2018, 12:52 AM

Yes, it's possible to stop. Keep in mind, though, the process of recovery is always being IN recovery. It's not a matter of one day simply being cured of the desire to self harm. Many people, even ones who haven't engaged in self harm behavior in decades, still feel the desire to do so. That's part of the addiction, and though it's hard to say no to it, it is possible.

I hear that you are scared you won't be able to stop. I've felt that way, too. It can be worse when you've been in a period where you've been self-harming frequently, such as daily or more than once daily. It can feel overwhelming and like it will never end. But it will. The beautiful thing about an urge is that that's all it is: an urge. You don't have to listen to it. You don't have to act on it. Once you stop viewing urges as something you MUST act on or else they won't shut up/you won't get over it, you'll be amazed how much power it takes away from them. You have control. You get to decide. I know it doesn't feel that way but you do. You can decide to make the idea of cutting a little less overwhelming and overpowering. It won't cure your addiction, but it will help.

I know you say you are too scared to talk to adults, but I really advise it. They have resources that we don't and could, for example, get you in to see a therapist, which it sounds like might be beneficial. However, we respect your decision not to go that route. In the meantime, please feel free to post here as often as you need for support. You're also welcome to talk to me any time. My inbox is always open.

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Re: Will I ever be able to stop? - August 5th 2018, 02:34 AM

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Yes, it's possible to stop. Keep in mind, though, the process of recovery is always being IN recovery. It's not a matter of one day simply being cured of the desire to self harm. Many people, even ones who haven't engaged in self harm behavior in decades, still feel the desire to do so. That's part of the addiction, and though it's hard to say no to it, it is possible.

I hear that you are scared you won't be able to stop. I've felt that way, too. It can be worse when you've been in a period where you've been self-harming frequently, such as daily or more than once daily. It can feel overwhelming and like it will never end. But it will. The beautiful thing about an urge is that that's all it is: an urge. You don't have to listen to it. You don't have to act on it. Once you stop viewing urges as something you MUST act on or else they won't shut up/you won't get over it, you'll be amazed how much power it takes away from them. You have control. You get to decide. I know it doesn't feel that way but you do. You can decide to make the idea of cutting a little less overwhelming and overpowering. It won't cure your addiction, but it will help.

I know you say you are too scared to talk to adults, but I really advise it. They have resources that we don't and could, for example, get you in to see a therapist, which it sounds like might be beneficial. However, we respect your decision not to go that route. In the meantime, please feel free to post here as often as you need for support. You're also welcome to talk to me any time. My inbox is always open.

Take care, and good luck.
Thank you! I actually am cutting at least once a day. But thanks, you gave amazing advice,
   
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Re: Will I ever be able to stop? - August 5th 2018, 07:13 AM

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Try writing a letter to a teacher, consular or maybe even a friend's parent as well as your parents. Do you think that'll help?



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