What do you say?

[Insomniacs_Dream]

When people as you about your scars, how do you respond? I like to think mine aren't noticeable but my sister asked for the 2nd time today. And I've had a few other people ask me... I normally clam up and say things like "I don't know" or make up lame obvious excuses, especially when my little sister asks. =( I don't know what else to say... my sister always thinks they're recent cuts or peeling skin even though it's scars from almost two years ago. It's something that's apart of my past and well... I've always been really asmaed of it... so I don't know what to asy when people ask. It's NOT something I want to share with anyone.

[xxJesus_Freakxx <3]

Hey,

It's nothing to be ashamed of. If somebody ask, I answer honestly "it's something I used to struggle with," the first time or so is uncomfortable but most people that I've ran into don't really question it and just accept it. don't know if you could try that or not. honesty usually is the best policy though

if not just tell them that your cat attacked you or something....

[Gidig]

You don't have to say. You could say that it was just an accident you got into and don't really want to talk about it or something like that, you know?

You have no obligation to tell people. To your sister, you can explain that they're actually older but you're not entirely sure where you got them, you've had them for a while.

[.:BreakingBeautifully:.]

Hey there,

It really all depends. In all reality you shouldn't be ashamed of it but I know that is easier said than done.

For people you are not really close to you could say something like "I don't know I think it's from an accident I was in or something."

As for your sister you could just tell her 'Ah I don't remember, I got them so long ago." But, if you feel comfortable enough doing it you could use it as an oppurtunity to talk to her about it and explain to her why it is a sucky coping mechanism. And, explain to her why dealing with your problems in a positive manner is way better.

In the end it really all depends on the person. I choose to wear long sleeve shirts but I know people who don't care and just tell people.

Hope this helps and if you want to talk feel free to pm me.

[pink]

Hi :]

It's really nothing to be ashamed of. It's your skin, it's your body. The reasons people feel ashamed are because it's kind of a taboo and society poses this "aaack, gross" feeling about it. Push that away, it's totally bogus and up front people don't really think like that. It's easier to believe words than to believe them when they've got two legs and are looking you in the eye.

As for people asking you about the scars, I've known of people on this site that give long details descriptions. My friend who has scars does that and when asked she'll launch into this totally improvised story about stacking glasses and dropping them. I've heard of people saying something silly like "I petted a porcupine" and smile.

Though i totally agree with the first post, honesty is the best policy and saying something like "it's something i used to struggle with" would be best. But if your just too shy to face the public's questions, you could try covering them with foundation? it doesn't make them disappear completley but it makes them so much less noticable, you'll be the only one to notice them.