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worried I might be going back - July 27th 2009, 05:21 AM

It's been four months since I last hurt myself, but it's always the first thing I think of when something goes wrong.
Is this normal? I mean, to still want to do it after all this time and effort i put into NOT doing it...
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Re: worried I might be going back - July 27th 2009, 11:51 AM

I think it's normal. It has to be. I've read of some people's posts here who even after 3 years still have the urge to cut. I do. I'm only about 3 months and a half SH-free. But when something bad happens, no matter how small, I think about doing it. So, yeah, I think it's normal.
I know it's hard to NOT do it when you want to so very much, but you need to be stronger than the urge. You need to fight the urge day after day, second by second. I wish you the best of luck and congrats on your 4 months! Stay strong.

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Re: worried I might be going back - July 27th 2009, 02:41 PM

Hey, Congrats on the 4 months, yeah it's completely normal to feel the urge to self harm after 4 months, i know for me, and probably a lot of other self harmers/ex self harmers, i turned to self harm to deal with any emotion, just trying not to feel anything, so having it out of your life is sometimes quite difficult especially in difficult times where you know before hand you just would of cut, but trust me the feeling of not cutting and reaching each mark in time, 5 months, 6 months a year etc, is going to mean so much more to you than self harming, So when you next feel the urge, just try as many alternatives as possible, you'll eventually find a few that really works for you


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Re: worried I might be going back - July 27th 2009, 04:04 PM

It is absolutely normal, and actually the fact that you are thinking about it and not doing it means that you have the strength to fight that 'urge' even when something is tempting, four months is a great period , keep going on and soon you it just will memories

If ur at the bottom then cheer it only can go better
If you are lonely then smile
You do not need them to stay alive
If they hurt you bad ,been hurt worst and every thing is just pushing u down...
And even though you are strong enough to survive

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Re: worried I might be going back - July 27th 2009, 08:17 PM

I think it is normal. So many people get urges to self harm even when they haven't done it for ages. I know I always think about it when things start to go wrong. Congrats on the 4 months by the way that is a fantastic achievement. Keep going, you can do it!
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Re: worried I might be going back - July 28th 2009, 01:56 AM

It is normal. I am also going on 4 months now and when things go wrong sometimes I feel like I need to but I remember that it is not going to solve anything. keep going think as a game that last forever will see who can last the longest hopefully will both win.
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Re: worried I might be going back - July 28th 2009, 02:05 AM

It is normal, if your so used to doing it as soon as something bad happens thats what your going to think about right because thats what you did before? and it's going to keep going over and over in your head if your stopping. But stay strong, you can do it.

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Re: worried I might be going back - July 28th 2009, 02:39 AM

4 months is AMAZING!
Im so proud.
I havnt even got to 4 months ... just one month.
I look up to you.

Hey, you will realise that there are other methods of coping when your sad and upset.
for me, i colour in pictures when im like that. it calms me down.
your in the stage where your on the way to recovery.
its natural to feel like SH'ing when you feel upset but I know that you can be strong, like you have been the last 4 months, and you can get through it.

PM me if you wanna talk.
I no what your going thru


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Re: worried I might be going back - July 28th 2009, 03:07 AM

As everyone else has said, it is normal. I'm at 7 months of no self harm but as soon as something starts going sour, I think about it. And some days are worse than others. For instance, times when I have to focus solely on sitting in one place so I won't do anything.
Fighting the urges is by no means an easy task, and sometimes, people (like myself) may believe it easier to just give up and give in to the urges.
But I believe it to be much better to live the rest of one's life self harm free and be proud that you had the strength to keep yourself that way.
So, remain strong and keep it up.
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