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Unhappy cutting - August 13th 2009, 09:50 AM

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So I'd never really cut before.
My best friend does so she always talked about it and how it made her feel better so one time when i was really upset i tried it, but i just used this weird sharp mechanical pencil and it like left a scar or two cuz i dug it deep (even though it barely bled) and then recently my boyfriend broke up with me and i couldnt take it... i love him so much so i used a knife a d cut and i bled but it wasnt deep it was just like a swipe...a lot of times tho. and then im pretty sure my ther bff that doesnt know about me cutting saw my arm and im sure my ex boyfriend's best friends saw it too :/ i didnt mean for them to see it but we went to the beach and i couldnt wear a sweatshirt there... but yeah... i dont think im gonna cut again.. but sometimes i just really want to when i think about him =[
   
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Re: cutting - August 13th 2009, 03:58 PM

no boy is worth it if he is going to make you cut yourself.
maybe you could look at our alternatives for selfharm.
they have a lot of good ones that work for me.
cutting isn't the answer.
do something else that gets out your anger.
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Re: cutting - August 14th 2009, 03:08 AM

Hey,

It is good that you say you don't think you are going to cut again. It really doesn't solve the problem and if anything makes things worse. No one is worth self harming over. I know at the time it might feel like a release but then all the guilt and other feelings it leaves later are not really worth it.

I don't know why you split up with your boyfriend but he really isn't worth cutting yourself over. If you do feel like self harming again then you should check out the alternatives thread because that has loads of suggestions and hopefully something should help.

I hope you feel a bit better soon
   
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Re: cutting - August 14th 2009, 05:10 AM

Hey,

I am sorry you and your boyfriend broke up; break-ups can be really hard but (and I know it is hard to hear) time will heal this wound. It may take a while for you to heal but you will. And, he really is not worth cutting yourself over; you deserve to be happy and hurt free and self-harm doesn't provide you with those things.

If you ever get the urge to cut I would highly recommend using the alternatives(http://forums.teenhelp.org/f12-self-harm/t9418-alternatives-self-harm/) they really help with the urges and they can be kind of fun to do .

I was wondering if you could talk to your friend( the one who saw the cut) about what is going on? I know it can be difficult but sometimes it helps to have a friend to talk to and given you are going through a break-up it might help to have your friends shoulder to lean on. What do you think? Who knows your friend might be really understanding.

Please hang in there and if you ever want to talk feel free to pm me.

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Re: cutting - August 14th 2009, 06:00 AM

Hey Hun,

Glad to hear you don't want to cut again. Like everyone above me has already mentioned SH is not worth it and nobody is worth hurting yourself over.

The list of alternatives is a good thing to check out. Its filled with distractions and alternatives to help get your mind off an urge. (http://forums.teenhelp.org/f12-self-harm/t9418-alternatives-self-harm/)

I also just wanted to suggest that you find someone to talk to about this. I know it can be difficult to open up about things especially SH but its really helpful to be able to let things out and talk about them. Perhaps a close friend?

Good luck and take care <3
   
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