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Slipped up again - August 19th 2009, 10:57 AM

Ok so last night for the second night in a row I gave in.

I really don't want the two slip us to turn into a relapse so tonight im going to try really hard to beat the urge.

Im going on holiday on fri for a week so I should be able to make it that whole week as i will always be doing something to distract myslef plus im sharing a room with my sister so it will be too hard to SH.


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Re: Slipped up again - August 19th 2009, 12:52 PM

Hey Liz,

I hope you are doing well. Slip ups do happen in the recovery process, so don't put yourself down so much. You just have to stay strong.

I suggest that you check out the sticky on alternatives in this forum. They are categorised by how you may be feeling and will provide you with different alternatives instead of hurting yourself. How does that sound? It is a really good tool to use, and I think that you should check it out. http://forums.teenhelp.org/f12-self-...ves-self-harm/

Now what is causing you to hurt yourself? What is triggering you? Maybe if you can find the answer to that, you could then try to stay away from your triggers, then in return you wouldn't have to hurt yourself.

Self harm is a coping mechanism, so maybe you just need to find another way to cope with things that are going on in your life at the moment. That's why the alternatives is also such a great list because it provides so much.

Here is a site on self harm, that may give you a bit of insite on the action: http://www.palace.net/~llama/psych/injury.html it's not so bad. I would suggest taking a loot at it.

Do you have someone you can talk to? Such as a close friend, about your urges to self harm? Maybe if you had someone to talk to then you could not self harm. Talking will release any feelings you are having, and thus hopefully, stop you from self harming. I think if you feel an urge call up a friend, you don't have to tell them that you are having urges but just talk to them about anything, and hopefully that will get your mind off things.

If things start to get worse, I would suggest talking to a school counsellor, or let your mum know what is going on, this way you could get some real help with stopping this cycle. It may be something that you need. And although it's a scary thought going to tell an adult how you are feeling, it is sure worth it.

Try not to succumb to your feelings. Things will get better soon. I hope all is well for you. Please take care of yourself.
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Re: Slipped up again - August 19th 2009, 09:41 PM

Hi Liz;
I'm sorry that you relapsed. It's going to happen. Cutting is an addiction and it's almost impossible to break an addiction without relapsing at least once. Not that you shouldn't try.
I used to cut myself and as you're finding out it's very, very difficult to quit.
The trick I used was to draw a butterfly over where I wanted to cut myself BEFORE I got the urge to do it. I just drew it in pen and fixed it after every shower. The idea is that if you cut yoruself, you have to erase it until the cuts heal.
You are trying to set the butterfly free (the butterfly represents yourself) but every time you have to erase it because you cut yourself, you kill it. Go day by day and then week by week and eventually the urge to cut yourself with go away completely.
Of course, if it comes back then you should draw the butterfly again so that you don't cut yourself.

Cutting yourself will do nothing positive for you in the long run unless you can over come it.

You can send me a PM is you want to talk about it.

I hope I helped a bit.

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