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Unhappy I'm thinking.... - January 21st 2009, 10:45 AM

I'm thinking of cutting.. I haven't before, but I'm thinking about it... It's just tooo much.
   
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Re: I'm thinking.... - January 21st 2009, 10:48 AM

Oh Gawd Darlin dont do that. Once you start to cut its ruins your life.

Covered arms in winter.
Horrible Scars to explain.
Accidental lacerations.
Stitches
Infections

The list goes on....

Please...I really want to help you get through this...you dont need to cut, please dont start, you will regret it.

Try distracting yourself, get your anger out on paper, then rip it up...or PM me...I want to help, I know what its like, & you dont want to put your life at the risk because of cutting.


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Re: I'm thinking.... - January 21st 2009, 10:59 AM

Hun trust me, It's definatley not worth it once you start it's very hard to quit... I still technically haven't quit I did it twice yesterday and all I want to do is cut more... because i was stupid enough to do it in the first place... Hun what's wrong?? sometimes it just helps to talk about it...PM me or anyone who you feel comfortable talking to... Everything will be okay... Smile Por Favor
   
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Re: I'm thinking.... - January 21st 2009, 11:04 AM

I agree with the users above me. It's definitely something that you should try to avoid at all costs. It's so easy to get caught up in self harming, but so difficult to try and get out of it. It becomes your way of coping with things, but causes more harm than good.

Self harm is a coping mechanism,
which, ironically works very well in the short term. It provides escapism and release, even punishment to those who use it...but the one thing it totally fails on is even getting close to helping you with the problems that caused you to want to escape in the first place. The next day you wake up with the same stress, the same issues - but with extra wounds and pain and guilt and having to try and hide them, and making up excuses to people...not the ideal recipe for making yourself feel better about things. It doesn't solve the 'underlying' issues that make you want to hurt yourself in the first place. Instead, it just 'masks' them and provides temporary relief, but leaves behind scars that take time to fade and will always be there.

When everything seems too big to handle and you can't see any way out, it can be hard to think about the future. When you feel this way, there are some things you can try to concentrate on. Problems that seem unsolvable will change. Life is always changing and nothing lasts for ever, neither good nor bad. You do have choices about what happens and how you react to your surroundings. You are the one in control, therefore you decide what happens. You can say no to self harm, it's definitely something that if you do start doing, it'll be hard to get out of it.

There are people who can help, who want to hear what you have to say. Self-harming is destructive and stops people dealing with their pain. There are better ways to deal with the way you feel, and the first step is to reach out and talk to someone and talk about the things that are bothering you and are making you want to self harm.

Please take care. PM me if you want to talk.

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Re: I'm thinking.... - January 21st 2009, 11:09 AM

I have cats so I can blame it on them :P One thing I've been wiery about is my sister. I wear wristbands that I make, cuz I like them, and she always pulls them up.


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Re: I'm thinking.... - January 21st 2009, 09:09 PM

Please don't start cutting
its like this horrible addiction
that you really cant get rid of.
i dont want to see someone going through that pain..
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Re: I'm thinking.... - January 21st 2009, 09:15 PM

In addition to what has been said, I would like for you to read this: http://www.teenhelp.org/forums/showthread.php?t=171

For me personally, I have so many reasons why you shouldn't start cutting. The scars. The emotional turmoil. The loss of friends, the loss of trust from family members. The guilt you have. There is so much going through your head. You lose innocence. You have to grow up quickly, learning to take care of yourself and your injuries.

Please don't start cutting. Threads like this tear at my heartstrings. I don't want someone to endure what I had to.


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Re: I'm thinking.... - January 21st 2009, 09:24 PM

I tried to, but I could get the blade close enough, so I couldn't. =/
   
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Re: I'm thinking.... - January 21st 2009, 09:29 PM

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I tried to, but I could get the blade close enough, so I couldn't. =/
I'm really glad that you couldn't cut. Please throw that blade out. Talk to someone before you get wrapped up in this addiction, please.


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Re: I'm thinking.... - January 22nd 2009, 09:24 AM

I didn't cut. I couldn't figure out how to. And I did throw it away, I didn't want my mom to find it, since it was a desposable razer, then it would look kinda weird to have the razer part snapped off.
   
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Re: I'm thinking.... - January 22nd 2009, 09:36 AM

Please, don't cut. It's so not worth it.

Do you know any positive ways to releve stress? like, read a book, write a poem, listen to music, play a game, talk to your friends on the phone, anything but cutting. Cutting isn't a good way of releaving stress, because after you cut, you feel so more stressed out because you cut. The pain is only temperary, it will not be there five minutes later. Once you sstart, you won't be able to stop.


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Re: I'm thinking.... - January 22nd 2009, 12:59 PM

I've done those, and I don't have real friends to talk to. They pretend, but they don't really care.
   
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Re: I'm thinking.... - January 22nd 2009, 01:02 PM

Once you cut you'll never truly be rid of it. Even if you manage to stop in the end you may be left with scars and you'll always know what you used to do. Trust me, I wished I'd never started now and you'll regret it too if you start.
   
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Re: I'm thinking.... - January 22nd 2009, 02:25 PM

I really hope that you don't start cutting!

Making that first cut was the worst thing i've ever done. Once you've cut once, you'll want to do it again and again until it's out of your control and its all you ever do.
Try other ways of venting your anger, anything to let it out as long as you don't hurt yourself. It may seem amazing but it really isn't. It does more damage than good. It will never be enough.

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Re: I'm thinking.... - January 22nd 2009, 08:36 PM

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I've done those, and I don't have real friends to talk to. They pretend, but they don't really care.

I know how you feel but listen, a lot of us on TH have gotten caught up in SH and we regret it everyday. Like a user said above me, it only helps in the short term. You will learn about a side of yourself that is so dark and evil.

Just listen to this there are better ways....I suggest running. Itll will give you the same adrenaline rush cutting does and you might be in pain but its a good workout and its benefitting you... as long as you dont push yourself too hard.


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Re: I'm thinking.... - January 23rd 2009, 05:43 PM

I run on the treadmill. It's old, but it works
   
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