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Exclamation Confused, please help - September 21st 2009, 05:44 AM

i have been "cutting" for about 4 years off and on and for about 2 years i was clean
i have a question however just because i dont cut super deep and not on my harm its not something people should be worried about right?
   
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Re: Confused, please help - September 21st 2009, 06:32 AM

Hey KBlove10!
First off, welcome to TH! I hope you find it as helpful, and as amazingly friendly as I do!
I think, if anyone cuts, or hurts themselves, in any way, even as you say not as deep, it is SH!
I'm so glad to hear that you've been clean for 2 years! That's amazing! You should really be proud of yourself! Yay!
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Re: Confused, please help - September 21st 2009, 11:05 AM

Hey,

Firstly, I wanted to say welcome to Teenhelp I hope you like it here and are able to get the support you need. If you ever need anything at all then I am always here so just give me a shout!

You have been self harming for a while now but you did manage to stop for 2 years, which is absolutely fantastic! That just shows that you definitely are able to stop self harming. I think people will still worry about it because it is hard not to worry when you know someone you care about is deliberately hurting themselves. Self harm is worrying though because you might not cut super deep but how do you know one time you won't go too far. You might not mean to and it might just happen. It is very dangerous and of course people will worry. It also comes with the risk of getting infections, which would not be nice at all.

I think you can stop self harming after not managing to do it for 2 years! It is really hard because of how addictive it is. Have you ever looked at the alternatives thread? If not it might be a good idea to check that out because it has loads of suggestions of things you can do rather than self harm.

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Re: Confused, please help - September 22nd 2009, 12:36 AM

Thanks you guys that meant alot. The night of the post i did SH but i felt so guilty after since i was clean for 2 years. it just things are the most stressfull they ever been but i knew coming here after i did it i would try to look and find help and someway to vent
   
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Re: Confused, please help - September 22nd 2009, 11:49 AM

You are so welcome!

Sorry you resulted to self harming though. But no one can ever take the fact away from you that you went 2 whole years without self harm. Absolutely amazing and you can do it again! You can stop and this is only a blip. You will get there because you are strong. I am always here for you so feel free to PM me anytime. You are not alone
   
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Re: Confused, please help - September 22nd 2009, 01:34 PM

Hey!
You're welcome! Anytime!
Sometimes, yes, things may seem real stressful, and it may overwhelm you, but hang in there. As they say "Worse is a sign that it's nearly over"
Cheer up! Things aren't so bad as they seem! Hopefully!

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Re: Confused, please help - September 22nd 2009, 06:08 PM

A very wise woman told me once that it's not the cutting that's the problem, it's the reason why you cut.

Not to say that cutting is at all an okay thing, because you and I both know that it's not okay. What she was saying is that maybe it's better to instead look at the cutting itself and stopping that, try and find out WHY you cut and then try and figure that out. It'll make your life a lot easier. If you figure out how to put a stop to the pain you're feeling emotionally, it'll be much easier to just give up cutting.

Hope you're okay. PM me if you want to talk more

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Re: Confused, please help - September 23rd 2009, 03:16 AM

Yea, its just crazy how you can be ok for 2 years but the way i look at it is cutting will always be apart of me whether im clean forever. I know its gonna take ALOT for me to not cut again because its just taking the easy way out of things. I dont want to be known as there girl in threapy i dont want to show to others that things are bothering me because everyone sees me as this strong girl. and sometimes i just want to shout it at them.
but coming on here was one of the smartest things just a few short days and im feeling better. i guess you could just say i had my breaking point.

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Re: Confused, please help - September 23rd 2009, 04:01 AM

everyone has replases when trying to break an addictive behaviour. i think you did really well for 2 years. there is no shame in telling people whats on your mind or how your feeling, even if they see you as the "strong girl". Therapy isnt a shameful thing its an impowering thing ( at least thats my view) therap say you knew there was things going on for you and instead of hiding it away you dealt with it head on and to me thats being strong. anyways hope this help pm me if you need to talk.
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Re: Confused, please help - September 28th 2009, 10:10 PM

cutting is cutting no matter where or how deep.
pm if you need to talk
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