Support Forums Today's Posts

Get Advice Connect with TeenHelp Resources
HelpLINK Facebook     Twitter     Tumblr     Instagram    Hotlines    Safety Zone    Alternatives

You are not registered or have not logged in

Hello guest! (Not a guest? Log in above!)

As a guest on TeenHelp you are only able to use some of our site's features. By registering an account you will be able to enjoy unlimited access to our site, and will be able to:

  • Connect with thousands of teenagers worldwide by actively taking part in our Support Forums and Chat Room.
  • Find others with similar interests in our Social Groups.
  • Express yourself through our Blogs, Picture Albums and User Profiles.
  • And much much more!

Signing up is free, anonymous and will only take a few moments, so click here to register now!

Self Harm If you or someone you know is struggling with self harm and needs advice or alternatives, we're here to help.

Closed Thread
Thread Tools Search this Thread Rate Thread
  (#1 (permalink)) Old
BluDahlia Offline
Welcome me, I'm new!
BluDahlia's Avatar
Name: Clara
Gender: Female

Posts: 27
Join Date: January 8th 2009

THerapist at school - October 8th 2009, 05:06 AM

My therapist has a confidentiality agreement stating that she can't tell your parents about anything unless it will harm you or someone else, would mild self harm be in this category? I need help but I don't want my parents to know.
  (#2 (permalink)) Old
*Jen* Offline
keep smiling :-)
Outside, huh?
*Jen*'s Avatar
Name: Jen
Age: 29
Gender: Female
Location: England

Posts: 3,668
Blog Entries: 211
Join Date: January 6th 2009

Re: THerapist at school - October 8th 2009, 04:48 PM

Hey Clara,

It depends on your age. I think if you are over 16 they don't have to inform your parents but if you are under 16 they do. I am not definitely sure about this but my psychologist never told my dad about my self harm or wanting to overdose when I felt like it when I was over 16. I think though either way you should talk to the therapist about your self harm so you can look at other ways you can cope. Even if your parents do find out what is the worst thing that could happen? They could even be supportive so it might not be as bad as you think if they knew.

Stay strong
  (#3 (permalink)) Old
losing touch. Offline
oh, really?..
Jeez, get a life!
losing touch.'s Avatar
Age: 27
Gender: Female
Location: UK

Posts: 5,996
Blog Entries: 537
Join Date: January 8th 2009

Re: THerapist at school - October 8th 2009, 04:55 PM

i thought it was if you're under 18, not 16? but i could be wrong.

but yeah, it's difficult to say whether it falls into this category. but usually, yes it does. if you tell the school therapist that you SH then there is definitely a chance that your parents will find out. it varies from school to school, also. and how old you are will be a deciding factor. i'd say the younger you are the more likely they are to inform your parents.

..and our dreams will break the boundaries of our fears..

  (#4 (permalink)) Old
Kate* Offline
Newsletter Tips Writer
Outside, huh?
Kate*'s Avatar
Name: Katie
Age: 32
Gender: Female
Location: Ohio

Posts: 4,760
Join Date: January 6th 2009

Re: THerapist at school - October 8th 2009, 05:01 PM

I think they only have to tell your parents if you're under 18, so she probably can't tell them anyway.
  (#5 (permalink)) Old
Prozac Offline
I can't get enough
Prozac's Avatar

Posts: 3,497
Blog Entries: 108
Join Date: January 8th 2009

Re: THerapist at school - October 8th 2009, 05:18 PM

It is dependent on your therapist and her/the school's policy whether they will have to inform your parents or not about your self harm, it is also dependent on your age too, which has already been mentioned. I live in England and I'm 17 and neither my school counsellor or my psychiatric nurse have had to tell my parents about my self harm. If you are worried about telling your therapist due to this issue then you could simply ask your therapist about their confidentiality policy - if they say that your parents would need to be informed then I do think that you should still consider talking about self harm to your therapist as it could be beneficial for you to be open about the subject and to talk about it to someone.

Take care of yourself.
  (#6 (permalink)) Old
*Faith* Offline
They'll never know.
I've been here a while
*Faith*'s Avatar
Name: Faith
Age: 28
Gender: Female
Location: England

Posts: 1,702
Blog Entries: 25
Join Date: January 6th 2009

Re: THerapist at school - October 8th 2009, 05:27 PM

It is 18 but it does depend on the person, I only told mine that I was having thoughts and she told mine without even talking to me about me first so you might have to watch yourself. Your therapist might not worry that much if she trusts you but if you are harming yourself, she might do. The good thing is that you're crawling out your shell and getting help right? So maybe if your parents knew they might be able to support you and school could help them understand SH if you think they might blow their top over it.

You were the angel of my life, taught me to be free
Now I'm a stranger in your eyes.
  (#7 (permalink)) Old
PM me anytime!

TeenHelp Veteran
.:Bibliophile:.'s Avatar
Gender: Just me

Posts: 17,503
Blog Entries: 1847
Join Date: January 18th 2009

Re: THerapist at school - October 9th 2009, 02:07 AM

I am not sure but I really think it depends on the therapist, their policy, the severity of the self harm/harmful thoughts. You know, you could always broach the subject with your therapist. Say something like "What if one of your patients was self harming?" That way you are not telling your therapist but you are going to get a truthful answer. I did that a number of times with my therapist and it helped ease things.

|Lead Moderator|Newsletter Officer|
  (#8 (permalink)) Old
primal moo Offline
Average Joe
primal moo's Avatar
Name: moo!
Gender: Male

Posts: 116
Join Date: October 5th 2009

Re: THerapist at school - October 9th 2009, 03:02 AM

Like most people are saying, it depends on the therapist. Even if the confidentiality policy is "only in emergencies", the degree of understanding of self-harm varies from therapist to therapist (though if they're working with teenagers but don't know much about it, they're in for a helluva ride).

Another way to bring it up might be to ask your therapist what the policy means specifically by "harm". If that doesn't get you the answer you want, a direct question like "are we talking about only emergency situations where someone will die if you don't say something, or would you tell my parents if I was cutting or smoking pot?" would probably do it.

Once you're 18 (19 in some places), then your parents shouldn't be hearing anything. Shouldn't, anyhow.
  (#9 (permalink)) Old
hopefaithlove Offline
I've been here a while
hopefaithlove's Avatar
Age: 29
Gender: Female
Location: United States

Posts: 1,332
Blog Entries: 6
Join Date: January 7th 2009

Re: THerapist at school - October 11th 2009, 10:11 PM

That's how school counseling is here in the US. Regardless of age, if you are harming yourself or others your parents will be contacted. It is really worth it though. My guidance counselor had to call my mom like three times, and it's not as bad as you think. You can get the help you need and deserve!

There is always hope. PM me anytime.
SH Free since 10.20.08
  (#10 (permalink)) Old
forever_hannah Offline
Save the Savior
Average Joe
forever_hannah's Avatar
Name: Hannah
Age: 28
Gender: Female
Location: Alabama

Posts: 197
Join Date: September 18th 2009

Re: THerapist at school - October 11th 2009, 10:14 PM

Yeah, the only way to know for sure is to ask. You can always do that without giving yourself away by just asking some general questions about her policy.
But even if she does tell your parents something, it's not the end of the world. It's so awesome that you're thinking about talking to her about it. You can get the help you deserve.

Hope is real. Help is real. LOVE is the movement.
  (#11 (permalink)) Old
Beautiful_mind Offline
counsellor @ positive mind
Average Joe
Beautiful_mind's Avatar
Name: chantel
Age: 32
Gender: Female
Location: australia

Posts: 166
Join Date: July 16th 2009

Re: THerapist at school - October 11th 2009, 10:31 PM

They wont tell your parents if your over 16 and they can only tell your parents about your self harm. if its getting worse or if you have said it's ok for them to talk to your parents about it. At least when I was at school that's what i was told by my therapist.
  Send a message via MSN to Beautiful_mind Send a message via Yahoo to Beautiful_mind  
Closed Thread


school, therapist

Thread Tools Search this Thread
Search this Thread:

Advanced Search
Rate This Thread
Rate This Thread:

Posting Rules
You may post new threads
You may post replies
You may not post attachments
You may not edit your posts

BB code is On
Smilies are On
[IMG] code is On
HTML code is Off
Trackbacks are Off
Pingbacks are Off
Refbacks are Off

All material copyright 1998-2020, TeenHelp.
Terms | Legal | Privacy | Conduct | Complaints | Mobile

Powered by vBulletin®.
Copyright ©2000-2020, Jelsoft Enterprises Ltd.
Search engine optimization by vBSEO.
Theme developed in association with vBStyles.