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Hes making me choose - October 12th 2009, 04:19 AM

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okay my bf knows i SH and me and him were talking and i said 'i wnna cut" he said "okay i cant take this anymore its cutting or me" what should i do i really like him but i know i cant quit just like that and he expects me too.


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Re: Hes making me choose - October 12th 2009, 04:31 AM

Hi Crystal! well, i know what that can be like! if this boy really cares about you he should want to do what's best for you! you can try telling him that for him you will try your hardest to stop but he has to be patient because you may not be able to stop just like that! and if you care about him, while sometimes it might be hard and seem pointless to try, you can use him as a reason to try! if you know it hurts him, do your best to stop! i know it's hard but i also know you can do this! feel free to PM me if you need to talk! hang in there!

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Re: Hes making me choose - October 12th 2009, 04:39 AM

You can quit cutting, you have to be strong and get all the support you can. try looking at the alternatives thread. they have ideas there that you can use when you feel the urge to self harm. When i self harmed my friends did the same thing to me. it's important to know that feelings come and go they never stay so when you do have the urge to cut distract yourself from the urge until it passes .also maybe try therapy, they can support you there to. Pm me if you need to chat
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Re: Hes making me choose - October 12th 2009, 08:18 PM

hey =]
my boyfriend did this too, he said he loves me but when i hurt myself, it hurts him too.
he made me promise to stop, though i did cut again once but now i have been over 3 months without it and i dont think i will do it again.
if u really like him, make the effort to stop. it will be th hardest thing in ur life to do but it will be worth it.


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Re: Hes making me choose - October 13th 2009, 04:29 PM

I know how hard this can be. I had a lot of friends who said the same thing, and the truth is they probably just think they are doing the best thing for you. He is probably just as scared as you are about the whole thing, and I'm sure the last thing he wants to do is leave you when you need him, but I'm guessing that he thinks this is how he can help you. I hope you can make the effort to stop, because I'm guessing he really cares about you.

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