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Red face Perfect v. inferior-- - January 26th 2009, 10:11 PM

--is all things Tamsdon Dove. And honestly, honestly, I should put that in my profile. This whole thread is Tamsdon. (Also...cheeta print and Hello Kitty and The Office...and purple/pink/yellow/grey, raspberry lipton white tea.) Anyway, when I cut, I think...this is perfect. I am perfect for doing this. Perfect. When I go a couple days without cutting I feel more inferior. But I am inferior. I obsess about cutting and being perfect. I let it fill my mind. I take pictures of things that make me triggered because they're so perfect and put them in a file to look at when I'm tired of being so inferior.


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Re: Perfect v. inferior-- - January 26th 2009, 10:52 PM

I'm guessing you know cutting isn't good for you and I get the impression you want to stop.

It appears that cutting gives you a high - it release endorphins which make you happier. You need to find something else that gives you that high/sense of self-satisfaction to make you feel perfect and not inferior - there is a sticky in this thread for alternatives
   
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Re: Perfect v. inferior-- - January 27th 2009, 08:57 PM

I don't want to stop and I soooooooooo don't want to get told that it's bad or to go to alternatives right now. I guess I'm looking for--

I don't know.
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Re: Perfect v. inferior-- - January 27th 2009, 09:02 PM

But, I don't think many people on this site are going to give you a pat on the back and tell you that you should definitely keep on cutting. You have to at least recgonize it's not a good thing to do to yourself, minus the good feelings?





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Re: Perfect v. inferior-- - January 27th 2009, 09:19 PM

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I guess the main question is, are you okay with being this way about cutting?
We could list distractions, and tell you it's bad, and if you need us to do that, we're more than willing to.

And just specify what you're looking for, we'd all be more helpful then. =)

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Re: Perfect v. inferior-- - January 27th 2009, 09:29 PM

Yeah. I'm sorry, I didn't mean to be harsh before.

I guess if you want to cut and have no desire in stopping, that's you choice.

But I agree, what were you specifically trying to get help with in this post?





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Re: Perfect v. inferior-- - January 27th 2009, 10:32 PM

i dont know. i got into this like perfect little thing with cutting and i didnt hear/think about other ppl's thoughts on it for awhile and then i started hearing/reading things about cutting and how bad it is and i thought....that can't be true, are you serious? because i know that i before thought that it was bad.

ah. i guess im just voicing. or hoping someone else could--relate.
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Re: Perfect v. inferior-- - January 27th 2009, 10:36 PM

I can somewhat relate, for sure.

I just have gone through enough of it to realize, I don't want anything to take over my life like that. Especially something that physically harms me. And it's hard to stop, extremely hard. And I'd rather be done with it now, if that makes sense.

If you're content with self harming, and are being safe about it, we can't really stop you. But I would advise looking around and seeing the negative effects of self harm.
Also try to think about how you're going to explain those scars to your future employers. How about to your children?



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Re: Perfect v. inferior-- - January 27th 2009, 11:40 PM

I am perfect with that--my hip is a place that guarentees no one will see. My hidding places are perfect and I have two ppl that know. It's too...
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Re: Perfect v. inferior-- - January 28th 2009, 05:39 AM

It's comfortable for you. That seems clear.
The things that worries me is if you take care of yourself or not?

I'm not going to pretend I'm happy that you cut, but if you feel it's necessary I wont judge either.

Just remember to keep things clean, and try not to be too silly.

If you evern need anything just throw a PM my way (or someone you feel more comfortable with =])
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Re: Perfect v. inferior-- - January 28th 2009, 09:53 AM

I think that there are probably a lot of people who feel/have felt this way before. While I'm not really one of them, I think I can understand. It kind of seems like for a lot of people who cut, they don't want to, but when the time comes it makes everything feel a lot better for awhile. Actually, it's more than likely like that for everyone who cuts. It kind of sounds like you feel so much better when your cutting that you don't have any intention of stopping, and you can't see what damage it can do. And I'm not going to tell you how terrible it is and that you need to stop...because I can see that you have no desire of doing that. But just please think it through for awhile...stop focusing on all the great things about cutting, and try to remember the things about it that can actually hurt you. Imagine cutting to deep, and having to go to the hospital..things like that. And even if you still want to continue to self harm, at least try to keep yourself safe. And if you ever decide that you don't want this to control your life so much anymore, because whether you want it to or you don't, that's what it's doing, you can always talk to any of us.





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Re: Perfect v. inferior-- - January 31st 2009, 07:32 PM

hmmmmmph. it's pretty obvious this isn't the place I belong.





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Re: Perfect v. inferior-- - January 31st 2009, 08:10 PM

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I'm sorry you feel that way. We are not a pro-self harm site if that is what you were looking for, but if you ever need help with anything, be sure to ask! We're all willing to help with things such as stopping self harm.


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Re: Perfect v. inferior-- - January 31st 2009, 11:41 PM

obviously this isn't a pro-self-harm. there's no such thing.
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Re: Perfect v. inferior-- - February 1st 2009, 01:11 PM

Hey there,
I think what your searching for is for some sort of acceptance, someone to tell you that hurting yourself is okay. I guess it is in the sense that no one can tell you that self harming is 'wrong' but self harm isn't exactly a healthy way to cope (then again neither is smoking or drinking but SH carries more of a 'taboo'). No one's going to make you stop self harming and I think most people here are willing to give emotional support while you still do self harm. I can relate to the 'perfection' you feel when you cut, sometimes it can just feel right, even if it's not the best thing to be doing to yourself. If you ever want someone to talk to just send me a PM.


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