college=major stressful

[kat113]

okay so most people would think that it is the classes etc that stresses me out. no my roommate does. Before I came to college I had gone an entire year with out cutting. Now that I'm here I have cut about four different times. It just gets to be too much for me to handle and at the time seems like the best option to me for some reason. anyways basically my roommate is a major drama queen and everything has to be done her way...i barely even have any space in the already small dorm room because she thinks she needs all the space. Anyways I try and just let things slide and don't bring things up when she annoys me and try not to think about it. But it gets to be too much to handle and I end up cutting cuz that 's my only way of "saying" something is wrong. no she does not know i cut obviously, but I'm not sure how much more of it I can handle...can someone please help me I don't want to hurt myself anymore

[emoticon]

you have to take your form of speaking up. aka. cutting and put it in to words. You have a voice use it. try to not be there when she's there, and try to tell her in very nice way that either you need your space or you really just don't care. this will either work out or it won't. and if it doesn't, well like you said she's a major drama queen and if she gonna be like that then that her problem and you shouldn't suffer because of it.

[kat113]

I have tried talking to her...she doesnt listen and she believes that she never does anything wrong that it is everyone else. She even lied to one of my friends here and caused problems between my friend and I because she said I was saying shit. I don't handle that sort of thing very well. The problem is when she gets pissed off at me she does immature stuff like taking part of my bed apart, throwing and/or breaking some of my stuff, etc so I try to just tolerate her and let things go...but its getting harder every day

[emoticon]

well if shes doing that, shes really immature. she has no right to even do something like that to your stuff. Is there someone you can file a compliant to? if so, you should. i know your trying to be nice and mature, but sometimes in situations like this where you've tried you need outside help.

[Pandamonium]

If you have an RA or some kind of floor/room monitor, definitely let them know about this behavior. You should not have to live like this. If you have a camera, document when she destroys your room/etc, so that you can show them what's going on. If anyone else has witnessed her behavior, see if they'd be willing to speak up with you.

There should definitely be someone in your dorm who can help you deal with this roommate situation. If possible, you may even get moved in with someone else.

[Ghost On The Highway]

Honestly, your roommate sounds like a major bitch. Can you get a room transfer?

[kat113]

I have been thinking of getting rooms switched especially after what has happened this week with her. I'm just tired of her immaturity, etc. my friend devin said i could move in with him only problem is the RAs would def not allow a girl to move in with a guy...even if the guy is gay...