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Wink People at work talking to me about my arms - February 9th 2009, 08:19 PM

Ive worked in a bakery, in short sleeves for like 10 months now. when i 1st had the interview to work there, i did feel compelled to mention to the woman about my scars - she didnt say much, just that it wasnt a problem and i shouldnt worry about it.

Now i have been doing really well with SH. i feel really that i am recovering. but, like everyone i have low moments...
Last week i just got in that frame of mind where i didnt care anymore, and u no... but only a little. tbh there's just one scratch on my forearm. I'm lucky really its was an annoyingly blunt knife...

Anywho... the point is my boss at work, and I'm sure everyone else there (from what he said), has noticed. AND he actually asked me about it, and was being really nice, he's like given me his phone number and says to let him know if i need to talk n stuff. and this other woman also showed me her scars!! i was really taken aback. i never noticed her arms before. and her neck too.

The point of this post really is to let you all know that people, generally speaking, ARE supportive. Don't be scared about revealing your scars. It's nerve wracking at 1st, of course, and you feel self-concious. But there are more people out there that have been through the same and will understand. Even those that don't usually are nice too.

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Re: People at work talking to me about my arms - February 9th 2009, 08:24 PM

It's good you have such supportive co-workers and a supportive boss where you work, some people don't get that.
   
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Re: People at work talking to me about my arms - February 9th 2009, 08:35 PM

That's amazing, I'm so glad it went well. =) Stay strong!


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Re: People at work talking to me about my arms - February 9th 2009, 08:35 PM

I'm glad you have such supportive co-workers. A lot of people don't understand self harm and it helps to have people there who will be happy to listen and support you. I wish you the best of luck in your recovery. :]


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Re: People at work talking to me about my arms - February 9th 2009, 08:41 PM

I want to come work at your bakery. I'm glad that you have such a supportive work environment and I'm glad to hear that you are trying to recover.


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Re: People at work talking to me about my arms - February 9th 2009, 08:43 PM

Awh this thread really made me smile
I'm glad you're doing well on your way to recovery.
Thanks for such a positive thread
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Re: People at work talking to me about my arms - February 9th 2009, 09:25 PM

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Re: People at work talking to me about my arms - February 9th 2009, 09:44 PM

That is amazing. I love small businesses like bakeries and boutiques because the people who work there become less like a business and more like a family. It's an enviable environment, and I'm sure it's doing wonders for you. Yay


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Re: People at work talking to me about my arms - February 9th 2009, 09:50 PM

You took the words right out of my mind Edna. i was just thinking about how glad i am that i can get on with the ppl at work, and talk to them. i know im lucky to have a nice boss lol.

There are plenty of reasons (financial, distance to travell to work, career propects) why i should leave there really. but its my 1st job and im comfortable there, so i don't wanna leave, not yet anyway.
   
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Re: People at work talking to me about my arms - February 9th 2009, 11:36 PM

I'm so glad that you have such good colleagues and support.

I often feel the same way. People are so afraid of wearing short sleeves/whatever, but to be absolutely frank, no one gives a shit about your arms. The only reason why they ever talk to you about it is either to a) ask what it is or b) tell you about how they used to self harm or their mother or their friend did.

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Re: People at work talking to me about my arms - February 9th 2009, 11:39 PM

I agree with you. I think people are a lot more understanding then we think they will be. I know I was deathly afraid to tell anyone. But honestly their reactions where not that bad.




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Re: People at work talking to me about my arms - February 10th 2009, 12:36 AM

know how you feel my manager is so supportive she has like yours given me her number and is there whenever i need her she said she doesnt want me doing it but if i slip dont be scared to tell her

its so great having that support specially at work ive got such a good relationship with my manager and shes been throough similer stuf with her own daughter
   
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Re: People at work talking to me about my arms - February 10th 2009, 05:51 AM

It's great that you have such supportive co-workers, people tend to be better about finding out stuff like this than you think. I'm so happy for you.
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Re: People at work talking to me about my arms - February 10th 2009, 08:46 AM

Thats great that people are understanding You're lucky to work with people like that.

My sleeve accidently came up at work and the guy who saw just said "it's okay, I did that too".
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Re: People at work talking to me about my arms - February 10th 2009, 04:38 PM

this thread rli makes me smile one im proud of you and so glad things r going alrite for you and that ur recovering

and this thread has also helped me bcuz i was told for an year that i will never get an job bcuz of my scars nd that and ive always wanted to be an hairdresser so it helps to know that it is possible to get an job with the scars
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Re: People at work talking to me about my arms - February 10th 2009, 09:05 PM

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this thread rli makes me smile one im proud of you and so glad things r going alrite for you and that ur recovering

and this thread has also helped me bcuz i was told for an year that i will never get an job bcuz of my scars nd that and ive always wanted to be an hairdresser so it helps to know that it is possible to get an job with the scars

scars are part of you, if youd had an accident and was scarred (sp?) from that would that stop you getting a job? just because youve caused them yourself makes no difference, i have a scar on my hand where i had an operation but that scar is part of me and it doesnt stop me being capable of working they shouldnt judge on that, they may ask you to cover them somehow if there really bad if your working with people its like tatoos some jobs dont like you to have them on show x
   
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Re: People at work talking to me about my arms - February 10th 2009, 10:14 PM

i used to be worried about jobs too! you've not idea how terrified i was at that interview! I was like... and by the way - i have some scars on my arms from self harming - and then shes like "can i see?"
OMG!! but yeah she saw, and it was ok.

glad people are taking the positives out of this, ive been in the sh*t-scared position you're in, about people's reactions. But in my experience, it's never as bad as your mind can lead you to believe.
   
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Re: People at work talking to me about my arms - February 14th 2009, 09:44 PM

it cracks me up when we try to hide them and then when someone sees that we're always like "oh, shit" and then they're all supportive and stuff. that happened to me with my best friend's boyfriend... but I had a feeling he was like me... and he is/was. it's cool to have people to talk to who actually understand and aren't like "why the hell would you ever do that?"
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Re: People at work talking to me about my arms - February 15th 2009, 10:32 PM

It's nice when people are so understanding, =]


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