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Should I tell her? - February 16th 2009, 06:04 PM

Yesterday I was out shopping with my cousin and she saw a couple scars on my arm and she asked me what they were from and if they were from my dog. I said they were and she believed me I think but I really think I don't want her to believe me. I've been thinking about telling someone for a little bit but I'm not sure, I think I want to tell her. I don't want to make things worse for her becuase she tends to worry alot and shes been going through a rough time so maybe I shouldn't. I don't want it to be awkward either when I see her or if she'll tell someone... I don'tt knoww, any advice?
   
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Re: Should I tell her? - February 16th 2009, 06:30 PM

Hey Jenna, i think you should tell your cousion, i find the best way of forgetting your own problems is by helping someone else,
She could give you the courage to get proffesional help, and stop altogether
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Re: Should I tell her? - February 16th 2009, 07:17 PM

Jenna, I'm always encouraging people to reach out to others and seek help. I think your cousin could be a good support system for you. I hope that you get the courage to talk to her about your cutting. She could be a great support system for you if you have an urge. Good luck telling her and be sure to keep us updated.


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Re: Should I tell her? - February 16th 2009, 11:59 PM

How should I? I'd rather not do it in person and I don't text her at all usually, we talk on facebook sometimes but I don't know.
   
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Re: Should I tell her? - February 17th 2009, 12:05 AM

Telling her on Facebook one day could work.
It's definitely easier to tell someone something like this when you don't exactly hear their voice or if your not standing right beside them. I think that telling her is a good idea, because hiding everything beneath your sleeves for the rest of your life and getting no support whatsoever just isn't the way to go. If your cousin is having or has had rough times in her life then she's someone they may just be able to understand. I know when I told one of my friends something that was a bit like this I was surprised that she'd actually been through something similar. So, you never know. Your cousin will understand. And you're family, nothing will ever tear you apart, right? Just send her a message on Facebook whenever you feel like is a good time, and you feel courageous and strong enough. I think it could make things a lot better for you even just getting this off your chest. Good luck. xx





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Re: Should I tell her? - February 17th 2009, 12:12 AM

I'd just tell her (you can do it on Facebook) "Hey, I feel kind of bad about something... I lied to you about the scars on my arms..." And go from there. I actually have told a few of my cousins that way, but my family is kind of out there about how messed up they are. (Seriously, one of my cousins just went, "Oh, I overdosed about a month ago" to our cousin who is real sensitive and caring and didn't know at all) It may be harder for you but it helps a lot to have someone who knows and that you know you can trust.
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Re: Should I tell her? - February 17th 2009, 02:40 AM

I just sent her a message and said I had to talk to her and for her to get back to me... =/
   
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Re: Should I tell her? - February 17th 2009, 02:43 AM

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I just sent her a message and said I had to talk to her and for her to get back to me... =/
No =/'s!! That's great.
But you know there's no pressure, right?
If you don't feel comfortable telling her there's no one forcing you to.
I really do think it's a great choice though, if you decide to tell her it will take a burden off your shoulders, guaranteed. Best of luck. x





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Re: Should I tell her? - February 17th 2009, 02:53 AM

Omggg now I'm freaking out, what did I dooo?!
   
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Re: Should I tell her? - February 17th 2009, 02:58 AM

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