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Do you find it awkward when someone makes a SH joke? - December 12th 2010, 10:23 PM

Like, my friends don't know i SH, so sometimes they make jokes about cutting and everyone laughs, but i end up standing there feeling really awkward because i don't know what to do because i feel that if i laugh everyone will be like 'OMG she cuts doesnt she?'
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Earlier this week they made a joke and turned to me and jokingly said 'lets check your wrists then' and quickly pulled up on of my sleeves. Luckily, it was my right hand, and they didnt manage to pull it up that far so no one saw any scars, but when they tried to check the other one i pulled away and stepped back. So my friend looked and me and told me to show her my wrists, jokingly, and i had to make up some excuse about not letting them see. But it was really awkward for me and tbh, I panicked.


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Re: Do you find it awkward when someone makes a SH joke? - December 12th 2010, 11:22 PM

Hey Robyn, I wouldn't call that a joke. That was really mean and inapropriate. I'm sorry that happened to you. <3

I don't hear many SH jokes, so I guess that's why it doesn't bother me. Jokes about suicide bother me, which I hear alot, because I think people don't realize how serious it is.


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Re: Do you find it awkward when someone makes a SH joke? - December 12th 2010, 11:29 PM

My friends do the same thing. They don't realize they're hurting me when they do it though. The other day someone was like oh gosh exams are coming up I'm so nervous. And someone said they were going to get depressed and then my friend started making cutting motions and everyone laughed. It's very awkward. Its best to let them know individually that SOMEONE close to you struggles with cutting and not to joke about it. Or, if you'd like tell them its you. Best of luck in all of this.



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Re: Do you find it awkward when someone makes a SH joke? - December 13th 2010, 01:10 AM

something like that had happened to me once and i found it extremly akward. I was at crew (rowing) practice and someone was looking through a drawer and found a knife and made a commenting saying they shouldn't have these with teenage girls around. someone else then asked why and the girl replied someone might decide that they want to cut themselves and everyone giggled then she took the knife and pretended to cut herself with it while mock crying saying i don't want to row today and everyone started to laugh and i was laughing but inside i was like and started to pull down on my sleeves i was just like wtf
   
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Re: Do you find it awkward when someone makes a SH joke? - December 13th 2010, 01:19 PM

i dnt find it awkward..cuz i live in a small school..so evry1 knows pretty much all mi secrets..it just pisses me off..and makes me wnt to punch thm in th face..but i do wish yu good luck in going through ths


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Re: Do you find it awkward when someone makes a SH joke? - December 13th 2010, 02:03 PM

people where i work make jokes about cutting like of someone catches thier hand on a object in the cupboard at work someone will shout out ' oh stop self harming in that cupboard will you' they're joking about but i dont find it funny, my friend at college does something simmilar aswell, like on my ipod all my music is sad / depressing and he jokes that he will go home and 'slit his wrisits' and sometimes asks the tutor got any scissorcs her musics depressing and im like :/ my firned at college has only recently started to make theese jokes. its annoying. but i just laugh along with them even though i dont like the jokes.



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Re: Do you find it awkward when someone makes a SH joke? - December 13th 2010, 02:38 PM

I know how you feel. My friends make jokes about slitting their wrists when something is wrong, and occasionally they'll point out cat scratches on my arms and ask if I've been cutting. But I only ever cut on my ankles, so they don't know. I've learned to just deal with it. Most of the time, they're not trying to hurt anyone even if they are being ignorant. But I agree that pulling up your sleeves was just way out of line. I think, like Tara said, you should pull each of them aside and let them know that you take that stuff very seriously. You can say you know someone who does it, and you don't have to tell them it's you. They might not understand, but if they're decent friends, they'll probably quit joking about it.
   
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Re: Do you find it awkward when someone makes a SH joke? - December 13th 2010, 02:56 PM

That's not really even a joke what she did, she should have backed off when you moved away at least. I'm sorry it happened to you.

I used to self harm, and I still don't like the self harming jokes, some people talk about about it like its nothing but they won't understand it isn't unless there doing it, I'm sorry it makes you feel awkward I get where your coming from.

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