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Moving too fast - December 20th 2010, 08:19 PM

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My mother recently found out about my SH. Everything is moving too fast and my head is spinning. She wants to know the what, the how, the how long, and the where else and I can't tell her. I'm just not ready to tell her. I went Christmas shopping the other day. I really looked forward to it, but the whole holiday is overwhelming for me. The prospect of spending more than 5 minutes with my family is too much. I usually can only barely handle weekends with them but no I have to spend two weeks with them. I don't know what to do anymore.

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Re: Moving too fast - December 20th 2010, 08:34 PM

hey, you just gotta hang in there, try to be strong.
maybe try to explain to your mum that you're ust not ready to tell her everything. tell her as much as you feel comfortable, but you're not entitled to tell more.
and you have to try to find the balance between feeling things, but not letting them get to you. if you feel really triggered, mayb you could just excuse yourself for a while, listen to some good music or something. just remember that no-one can ever make you do anything, or make you any less than you think. it's all in your mind <3

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Re: Moving too fast - December 21st 2010, 10:53 PM

Tell her your not ready. and that when you are ready you will sit down and talk with her about it.
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Re: Moving too fast - December 21st 2010, 11:04 PM

i agree...its really hard to tell your parents stuff that they might not understand, relate to, or keep an open mind about..i think its great that your mom is concerned and asked all those questions bc if she noticed the SH and didnt say anything that would show that she is too scared of the situation to say anything...i think you should tell her that you love her and youre sorry that shes probably stressed out bout everything and stuff but that its going to be okay and that over time you will tell her but you need some space and for her to just be a mom to you for a while and to just treat you as if she is still concerned but not in the sense that she'll haunt you over the SH...please keep in touch! Id love to know how you are and how things turn out!
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