TeenHelp
Support Forums Today's Posts


Get Advice Connect with TeenHelp Resources
HelpLINK Facebook     Twitter     Tumblr Hotlines

You are not registered or have not logged in

Hello guest! (Not a guest? Log in above!)

As a guest on TeenHelp you are only able to use some of our site's features. By registering an account you will be able to enjoy unlimited access to our site, and will be able to:

Signing up is free, anonymous and will only take a few moments, so click here to register now!



Self Harm If you or someone you know is struggling with self harm and needs advice or alternatives, we're here to help.

Closed Thread
 
Thread Tools Search this Thread
  (#1 (permalink)) Old
Fantasy Offline
Writer
Not a n00b
**
 
Fantasy's Avatar
 
Name: Christy
Age: 19
Gender: Female
Location: USA

Posts: 82
Join Date: November 17th 2009

Sigh... - December 24th 2010, 03:26 AM

So I scratched again the other day... It was better than what I wanted to do though (choke myself). I've been emotional lately and my mom didn't agree with my opinion (and still wants to change it). So I was crying and I scratched myself... *sigh*


Never Give Up On Your Dreams No Matter How Hard Or Big They May Seem..... Someday you will reach them...
   
  (#2 (permalink)) Old
hannahgreenwood Offline
Member
Average Joe
***
 
hannahgreenwood's Avatar
 
Age: 21
Gender: Female

Posts: 185
Join Date: December 21st 2010

Re: Sigh... - December 25th 2010, 04:33 AM

I'm sorry!! It's hard to stop and I'm glad you chose to scratch rather than choke yourself but maybe you should keep a diary of some sort..that's good emotional release too!! and it helps you better understand everything about yourself and others and why ppl act the way they do too...idk...helped me through A LOT!! lol
   
  (#3 (permalink)) Old
Hiraeth Offline
Love makes all things possible

Experienced TeenHelper
******
 
Hiraeth's Avatar
 
Gender: Male
Location: a foggy, hilly place

Posts: 551
Join Date: October 24th 2010

Re: Sigh... - December 25th 2010, 11:52 AM

Hello there,

I've had that happen to me many times - something triggers negative experience, gets carried away with it, and before you realize it, you've managed to inflict harm upon yourself as an instinctive, unconscious reaction. Don't beat yourself up over it - things happen. It's so important to avoid getting caught in that vicious cycle of self harm -> feel bad over self-harming -> more self harm as a result. Sure, you had one slip-up, but you can always start again - treat this as a learning experience. Now that you have identified one more risky situation, what can you do to prevent the same slip up from occurring in the future?

Ah, mothers. My mom and her unforgiving stubbornness is a big trigger for me too - so I am learning now to interact with her more tactfully, after countless vain and traumatizing attempts at effective communication. If the mention of a certain issue or ideas will inevitably lead to loss of self-control, identify the issue - and avoid it as much as possible, in future conversations. Divert the subject if you can, try to lead into some indirectly related topic. If that fails, as much as I hate being dishonest in so many ways, if I must do it to protect myself, I will. Things like playing along with the attempts to crush individual thinking. I know one day I will tell her the truth, as well as apologize - but I'm not ready for it now, and that's all okay. Life places us in frustrating positions at times, and that's just how life is.

But anyway, that's just my experience - yours may be vastly different. No matter what, I hope you stay strong, and do not give up or give in easily.

Take care for now, feel free to PM me if you ever want to talk.
  Send a message via Skype™ to Hiraeth 
Closed Thread

Bookmarks

Tags
sigh

Thread Tools Search this Thread
Search this Thread:

Advanced Search

Posting Rules
You may not post new threads
You may not post replies
You may not post attachments
You may not edit your posts

BB code is On
Smilies are On
[IMG] code is On
HTML code is Off
Trackbacks are Off
Pingbacks are Off
Refbacks are Off





All material copyright 1998-2014, TeenHelp.
Terms | Legal | Privacy | Conduct

Powered by vBulletin®.
Copyright ©2000-2014, Jelsoft Enterprises Ltd.
Search engine optimization by vBSEO.
Theme developed in association with vBStyles.