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Feel like this should be easier.. - December 29th 2010, 01:08 AM

So I'm pretty close to being ten and a half months SH free - which is absolutely huge for me because I've never been past three months before this. I've made so much progress in the last six months especially, I've almost turned my life around, I'm recovering from almost everything.

So why do I still have urges? I know it takes a while to beat this, but the urges are just as strong as they were when I was a week free, and a month free. Sometimes stronger - because it's been so long, and I'm ashamed to say that I miss it. The idea of it.. see I have it in my head that it will help. I know it'll send me backwards again, but I can't shake the mindset I had for years, that it's okay to cope by hurting myself.

I dunno, just feel like it shouldn't be this hard after this long. At what point do the urges go away, or at least become easier to control? I'm terrified to start over from day one but I'm also scared that I won't be able to control the urges much longer.

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Re: Feel like this should be easier.. - December 29th 2010, 03:02 AM


Check out that list to see alternatives to self harming, that may take some of the urge away.

Congradulations on going so long without SH. Thats a huge accomplishment, you should be proud of yourself. (:

You could try positive self talk. Tell yourself how great your doing and that SH isnt the answer. You can shake the mindset, it just takes a lot of effort.

they subside for different people at different times. Everyones unique and not one person can say how long it takes.

But for me, im only 3 months SH free, but i havent had any urges that are too bad.. Ive had some, but then i just flicked a rubberband on myself and drew on my arms for a bit, andi was fine..

Just try to controll the urges and wait it out. You're doing great. You can do it. (:

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