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oops... - January 1st 2011, 08:18 PM

well i was self harm free for 2 weeks but last night i had to cut again. this is the longest ive gone in months without cutting and i felt good but over the past couple of days the urges were so strong. i couldn't not cut so i gave in to it. but the thing is my aunt made me promise i would try not to do it again 2 weeks ago. now that ive done it, i want to tell her i did it coz if i dnt its not very truthful but i dnt know how. she's gonna be really hurt but i dnt know what im supposed to do...
   
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Re: oops... - January 1st 2011, 08:29 PM

Hey there.

Firstly I wanted to say how amazing it is that you went two weeks with out self harming. It's incredible and proves you still have some fight and you have strength inside you to beat this.

Recovery isn't all about stop self harming and just never doing it again. There are going to be times where you slip up. But it's not about the slip up, it's all about getting back and and re-starting.

It seems like you have a close relationship with your Aunt and I think it's great she knows about the self harming but I think you need to try and make sure she doesn't put more pressure on you because I don't think her making you feel bad is going to help, even if she isn't meaning to do so. If you want to keep that trust there, go ahead and tell her. But make sure she doesn't knock you down because you are doing well. She just cares about you and wants you to be okay which is understandable, but sometimes friends and family can re-act in the wrong way so make sure she doesn't upset you or make you feel bad which could be a trigger for you.

But I think you're doing really well so don't let this knock you down. Keep your chin up.

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Re: oops... - January 1st 2011, 08:45 PM

Well first im proud of you for going that long without SH.
second im proud that you came to us for help.

Honestly dont let this get you down. Im sure you must trust your aunt with this situation. And thats always good to have someone you can talk to. If you tell her im sure she will be hurt. But that lets you know she is concerned.

Finding something to help cope with cutting would be a great idea.. So take your time and remember your strong and you can do what ever you want.


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Re: oops... - January 10th 2011, 04:50 PM

I agree that its great that you went 2 weeks without SH, it showing you are making an effort to stop. Its great that you can talk to your aunt, and i think its down to you whether you tell her or not; but sometimes if people are pressuring you it can make things worse. So to be honest i think it depends on your relationship and how you feel about your aunt knowing. Don't be too hard on yourself for cutting again, it was a mistake and it will happen, its part of the road to recovery. Feel free to PM me if you want to talk. :-)


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Re: oops... - January 11th 2011, 05:52 PM

Jessie is right, it isn't about just stopping and never doing it again.
There will be slips and its making sure you pick yourself up and get back on track and not let it blight your success. 2 weeks is amazing, you should be so proud, proving to yourself that you can do it. xox


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Re: oops... - January 12th 2011, 04:45 PM

i still haven't told her. don't see the point at all now ive done it so many times since.
   
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Re: oops... - January 12th 2011, 05:21 PM

Hey! I realize originally posted this thread 11 days ago and things may have changed, but the fact that you went two weeks without cutting shows how strong you are. You can do it! A slip up isn't a good thing, but it's not a terrible one either. You just gotta make sure the slip ups are nothing more than that and go back to not cutting.
And in case you have started again, as your previous post indicates, by now you know it's not the answer and its only hurting you. You can stop, you've already proved that.
As Metallica once put it, "you rise, you fall, you're down and you rise again." It's a good line, really. When life knocks you down, you just need to stand back up again like we all know you can (:


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Re: oops... - January 12th 2011, 05:31 PM

thanks Dan
   
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Re: oops... - January 12th 2011, 06:28 PM

No problem Saba, I know you're strong (:
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