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Getting out of control - January 2nd 2011, 06:47 PM

I SI constantly. Literally no matter what I'm doing. When I'm at the mall with my friends I'll covertly dig my nails and twist them into the sides of my wrists or go to the bathroom and scratch my leg until it bleeds. I don't go half an hour without falling, cutting, banging...I'm realizing at this point it's out of control. I can't trust myself. How can I motivate myself to stop cutting?


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I know it seems hard...I have been there. I was getting worse myself and always got some kind of injury on purpose. I started carrying sharp things around with me. I even had paper clips and lots of things really. I was getting worse. I was shing everyday. I couldn't stop. But i did. I got myself help because I didn't want to die. I got a few friends to support me. I had to tell them what was going on. It was hard. I think you should find a small support group or even just one person that you could talk to. When you get the urge to sh then call someone or get online here. I did this stuff and it took a little while but i got better. Now i am not saying the urges will go away completly...every now and then i get an urge but i have reasorces in my corner to protect me. You could also try some of the alternative technices fount on this website. I tried several of them and they really can help.Don't be discouraged if you try something and fail. It will take time but it will get better. You have to want this too...that will help. dont be afraid to talk about the urges...talking can help make them less strong...I hope that I could help. Im sorry if I didn't though. I really hope I do though.
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Re: Getting out of control - January 3rd 2011, 07:11 PM

I just want to echo what Savanna said. Anything like this, it's absurdly hard to go through by yourself. Find a friend, someone you love and trust. Open up to them. Let them know how afraid you are. And any decent friend would gladly help you.

Good luck. You can get through this. Keep your head up and stay strong. I believe in you.


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Re: Getting out of control - January 3rd 2011, 07:35 PM

I know how hard it is stop. But I guess the biggest motivator would be knowing that people care about you and want you to stop, because their worried about you. Is their anyone you know that wants you to stop?


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Re: Getting out of control - January 4th 2011, 02:02 AM

I can't seem to get anything to do with the urges or why I do it or how it feels out of my head. I just can't say it out loud. It's so locked into me. Even my two friends who know I cut I can't talk about it. I know how strange and scarry it sounds and I just can't let it out. I want to but I'm scared to death of my own thoughts.


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Re: Getting out of control - January 4th 2011, 02:25 AM

You need to tell you parents, they can take you to a counselor to get help.


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Re: Getting out of control - January 4th 2011, 02:28 AM

They'd be so scared. I can't let them down. I don't want anyone to get hurt.


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Re: Getting out of control - January 4th 2011, 02:36 AM

why would they be scared?


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Re: Getting out of control - January 4th 2011, 02:39 AM

My parents adore me. I'm their youngest and only daughter. They would be so scared by a problem that's so self-destructive.


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Re: Getting out of control - January 4th 2011, 02:45 AM

but if you cant stop, dont you think you should tell them.


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Re: Getting out of control - January 4th 2011, 02:48 AM

I really don't want to upset them Alex. I honestly don't even want to stop myself though. But the rational part of me knows it's gone too far. Is there a way for me to stop hurting myself without hurting anyone else???


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Re: Getting out of control - January 4th 2011, 02:51 AM

i dont know, sorry about hounding you. do you think you can stop by yourself?


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Re: Getting out of control - January 4th 2011, 02:54 AM

If you think telling your parents will upset them that much, I do not think at all that you are obligated to tell them.

Is there any other trusted adult you can go to? A teacher, a friend's parent, a guidance counselor?


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Re: Getting out of control - January 4th 2011, 02:54 AM

No, I really need some advice and I really appreciate it. I don't know if I can stop. This is a stupid question I'm sure so don't answer it if you don't want but, how do I stop myself?


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Re: Getting out of control - January 4th 2011, 02:56 AM

@Fred,
I don't want anyone's opinion of me to change


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Re: Getting out of control - January 4th 2011, 02:56 AM

i dont know. i tried stopping myself. do you have any friends who could help?


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Re: Getting out of control - January 4th 2011, 03:00 AM

I have two friends who know. I just have no idea how to talk about it. I've tried and all I can say is that I cut. I can't say to them why/how/urges etc... I get petrified everytime I try to talk about it


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Re: Getting out of control - January 4th 2011, 03:02 AM

do you wanna try and talk to me about it?


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Re: Getting out of control - January 4th 2011, 03:03 AM

The reward system might be helpful.

Pick something you like, something that you can use to reward yourself. You can use a food, an activity you enjoy... whatever. So throughout the day, try to consciously notice when you're SHing -- and when you do, try to stop yourself. If you can go a day without doing it, reward yourself. If you can't, then don't.

Simple. But I've tried it, and I think it's pretty effective. Obviously you need a bit (or a lot) of willpower for this.


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Re: Getting out of control - January 4th 2011, 03:06 AM

I want to just get this out of my system. Did you ever get scared to talk about it because you were afraid of realizing what you were thinking?


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Re: Getting out of control - January 4th 2011, 03:07 AM

i was afraid to talk to my parents and in person friends about it. but i could talk to my internet friends openly about it.


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Re: Getting out of control - January 4th 2011, 03:09 AM

I just know how twisted I'll sound


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Re: Getting out of control - January 4th 2011, 03:10 AM

and thats ok. i dont mind.


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Re: Getting out of control - January 4th 2011, 03:13 AM

But I will. It scares me the way I think


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Re: Getting out of control - January 4th 2011, 03:14 AM

so you dont even wanna talk about it with me?


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Re: Getting out of control - January 4th 2011, 03:21 AM

I want to. But I'm nervous. Okay so basically all the time, I need pain. Sometimes when things are good a little's enough, then when I'm really unhappy I do damage.


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Re: Getting out of control - January 4th 2011, 03:22 AM

im going to send you a private message.


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