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Um...why? - February 27th 2009, 05:57 AM

OK...I don't know what the hell is wrong with me? ...so today I tried to get into the doctor but they said they were all full up. So now in my mind I'm just thinking forget it and not even go. She is just going to send me to a shrink anyways ... I am just starting think there is no point.
So today I was with my friend all day. Everything was fine. I went with her to get a new pet and we went to eat. I don't know why I get like this but when she gets with guys I tend to get a little jealous, I don't know why. She told me when I got to her house that her friend who is guy is coming over but she don't like him like that. So we picked him up and hung out we went to the porn store and the whole time I found myself becoming really quiet and kind of irritated. How can you say you don't like someone and kiss them and act like your going out with them? it just don't make any sense to me. Anyways...so being mad I came home and SH because I am kind of frustrated at her and just about some other things. Lately I just have been finding myself doing it for stupid reasons such as this...well and what my mom said to me today but thats a whole other story. I just don't know why I do this when I'm not even depressed and just mildly irritated....its fustrating and everyday its becoming more and more of an addiction with me.
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Re: Um...why? - February 27th 2009, 04:15 PM

Hey hun! First off hugs! I have a friend excatly like the one you described. Maybe she has very low self confidence and like the attention this guys give her. You should talk to her about it and tell her that you dont like to see her acting this way with lads. Some girls just need the constant attention of guys or have a fear of being alone. But you should definatly talk to her about it! The thing with SHing is that once you start doing it, you dont just do it when your depressed, you do it for any emotion.. Jelosy..frustration.. or even confusion. You think that well if it works for when im sad.. it will work when im annoyed to. Its a totally normal reaction. But like you said SH is an addicition. Its absolutly brillant that you decided to go to the doctor to get help. and it sucks that they had no space that day.. but dont give up.. make an appoinment.He probably will send you on to a concellor but the plus about going to a doctor first is that they know which councellor will suit you best and will find you one alot easier that would you find one yourself.
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Re: Um...why? - February 28th 2009, 12:15 PM


Self harm isnt stupid, no matter why you are doing it. I think its great you went to the doctor to try and get help, and i would say to you not to give up on that. Just phone and book an appointment for another day.

Maybe you could try other ways of relieving the frustration? Such as going for a walk, throwing soft toys really hard, excersize, punching a pillow. There are lots of them in the sticky.

If you get jelous and angry when your friend is with guys, could you explain to her that you dont like how she is around them? She might not even realise what she does, or like the person above said, she might have low self esteem. If that doesnt work you could just hang around with her when there are no guys, you could invite her to your house for a day or something. Have a girly time etc, makeup hair.


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