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Help? Scared... - February 1st 2011, 10:07 PM

I have been snapping myself with rubber bands for some time. A bunch of my friends found out and search and take them when i wear them. Once the rubber bands cut through my skin, lately all I've wanted to do is cut, I've almost gone though with it on multiple occasions. I hate that my friends worry about me so have been hiding this from them. But the urges are getting worse, I'm scared...what do I do?
   
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Re: Help? Scared... - February 1st 2011, 10:11 PM

DO NOT START CUTTING. Do it once and you're gonna be hooked. Believe me, it was the biggest mistake I have ever made and I regret it everyday. That one singular moment when I did it the first time has been following me for a year now.


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Re: Help? Scared... - February 1st 2011, 10:44 PM

Please, do everything you can to not make the first cut. Once you do it's going to be a battle to stop. Self harm ruin so many lives don't let your be one of them.
   
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Re: Help? Scared... - February 1st 2011, 10:58 PM

I know that snapping rubber bands is your way of coping, as it was mine.. But if the rubber band is cutting you or making you bleed in any way, that is the time you should really try to find a healthier alternative. After I figured out that I could do that, it was all down hill. The rubber bands are triggering you, and that's what you have to stay away from.

Please don't cut. There is always something much healthier and much better to do.

It's a good thing that your friends care, though. They are looking out for you and want the best for you. If anything, you should stop cutting or using rubber bands because if they worry enough to take them away from you, it shows that they really don't want you to hurt yourself. Take advantage of this, and show yourself that you can make it through this. Show yourself that you trust yourself more than you think you do.

Getting over the addiction and getting better will be one of the most rewarding accomplishments. I won't lie... It will be hard. It will suck. You will have terrible urges and may even feel worse for a little bit... But once you get over the worst parts of quitting, everything is so much better without having to worry about using self harm as an escape.


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Re: Help? Scared... - February 1st 2011, 11:39 PM

don't do it. nothing good will come from it.

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Re: Help? Scared... - February 1st 2011, 11:56 PM

Why do you hate that your friends care?? Most people hate it that no one cares.
They're just trying to help you. Let them help you.
Don't start cutting.


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Re: Help? Scared... - February 2nd 2011, 12:30 AM

I hate that they care to the point they are threatening to hurt themselves, and I don't know how to stop fast enough for them to not. I hate that they are in pain because of me.
   
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Re: Help? Scared... - February 2nd 2011, 01:59 AM

Maybe if you didn't hurt yourself it wouldn't be like that?


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Re: Help? Scared... - February 2nd 2011, 08:28 PM

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Maybe if you didn't hurt yourself it wouldn't be like that?

If they want to hurt themselves because you hurt yourself.. I would think that it might be a great reason to take the step towards getting better. Did you maybe think that the way they're making you feel by saying that they will hurt themselves is the way that they feel when they see that you hurt yourself?


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Re: Help? Scared... - February 2nd 2011, 10:55 PM

Did you maybe think that the way they're making you feel by saying that they will hurt themselves is the way that they feel when they see that you hurt yourself?


Yeah i have, I'm really trying, but sometimes when they say that it makes me want to sh more because of the guilt...
   
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Re: Help? Scared... - February 4th 2011, 01:34 AM

Guilt is a terrible terrible thing, and I'm sorry you feel that way. I understand that guilt is always going to a main trigger for your sh, but the only way to get better is to believe that you can.

Honestly, everyone in the world can tell you to stop, to use alternatives, to do this and that... but the truth is, the only person that can make that decision and the only one that has any impact on this situation is you.

But you should use those very moments, and really push yourself more than you ever have before to get better.


"Although only breath, words which I command are immortal." Sappho

"Sometimes I feel nothing at all. Sometimes I feel everything is my fault.
Sometimes I feel the hate break my mind. Sometimes I feel they deserve it this time.
May the bridges I burn light my way." - I, Alone - Otep

   
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