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Ugh. I feel Discusting. - February 3rd 2011, 02:06 AM

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I asked one of my friends that if I gave him 20 dollars, if he would go out and buy me a pocketknife. I felt horrible for even asking that, because the intent with this knife is cutting. He told me that he owns about 30 pocketknives and he'd gladly give me one. I feel horrible for taking his things, and using them to harm myself. But even if I end up never using the knife for that... He never asked why I needed it :/ That may sound kind of a dumb thing to be sad about... But I would have asked why he needed one if the tables were turned.

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Re: Ugh. I feel Discusting. - February 3rd 2011, 02:08 AM

Maybe you shouldn't take a pocket knife from your friend. And if you want to talk to him, do such. If not, well, don't let him give you/buy you any knives/razorblades/pins/etc.


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Re: Ugh. I feel Discusting. - February 3rd 2011, 02:50 AM

Hey hon, you shouldn't feel gross or guilty or anything like that. You're in pain so you hurt yourself. You're human. You have fears and confusions so you want to get rid of them and think that's what'll work. It's not something to guilt trip yourself over. And honestly, try not to be hurt by that. He doesn't know. If you wanna talk about it you can PM me anytime


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Re: Ugh. I feel Discusting. - February 3rd 2011, 09:43 PM

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Re: Ugh. I feel Discusting. - February 3rd 2011, 11:49 PM

I had the same thing going on last year. I paid one of my friends to go get me razors... Luckily she kind of forgot about it, but she DID ask why I wanted them. I would definitely NOT accept anything you would use to harm yourself from him. Is he a close friend? Maybe you could talk to him about what it was for? Just an idea. You'd be surprised in who could help you.



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Re: Ugh. I feel Discusting. - February 4th 2011, 12:15 AM

I met him last week, but he is pretty close if you consider the time. I'm not sure if I would tell him though.



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Re: Ugh. I feel Discusting. - February 4th 2011, 01:31 AM

If you met him last week, I wouldn't really suggest telling him about your intention. Is there anyone else you could talk to about it, though? Because it might help you a lot to talk to someone.

But, yeah, I'd say don't take his knife. There's no reason to feel guilty about it if you do, but... I wouldn't. Let him help you through your pain. Don't make him an unwitting accomplice to your suffering.

And don't be offended that he didn't ask why you wanted it. It just probably never occurred to him that you would use it for self-harm. That does not mean he doesn't care about you. And I can't judge your relationship with him... maybe he would be a good person to talk to.

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Re: Ugh. I feel Discusting. - February 4th 2011, 01:36 AM

Hey Becca,
I'm sorry to hear that you're in such a confusing situation for you. I don't think it'd be right to take something from your close friend if your intent was to harm yourself with it. I know that if your friend knew what your intent was, he wouldn't give it to you.

Although I'm sure you're going through a lot, harming yourself isn't the answer. Have you seen our Alternatives Sticky at the top of the Self-Harm Forum? In it, there are a lot of different ways to distract yourself from self-harm. Your body doesn't deserve that kind of torture, and the scars will truly never be worth it.

If you are ever tempted with self-harm, come on here and find someone on Staff or someone that you're close to, and tell them how you're feeling. Maybe even calling a friend of yours on the phone to get your mind off things so you'll cheer up some.

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Re: Ugh. I feel Discusting. - February 4th 2011, 08:57 PM

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If you met him last week, I wouldn't really suggest telling him about your intention..
Yeah, I'm not going to tel him.



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