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To quit, or not to quit? - February 5th 2011, 06:18 PM

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I had been SI for a few weeks, got scared, and told my parents. I gave them the knife, and I told my therapist. But then a few days ago I REALLY wanted to cut. So, the next day I went and bought a small craft knife. I thought I'd just keep there, I wouldn't cut. I'd been a few weeks without cutting but I just felt like I was forcing myself to do something I wasn't ready for. I wasn't ready to give up SI. So, yesterday I started cutting again. I don't feel like it's a big deal. I know I should stop because it's bad for me, but I just don't want to.
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Re: To quit, or not to quit? - February 5th 2011, 07:22 PM

Hey,

The thing is that you're never going to feel 'ready.' There's never going to be a day where you say "I don't feel like self harming anymore, I'm going to quit." No matter when you decide to quit self harming, it's not going to be easy. You're not going to feel ready. You're not going to want to go a day, let alone a week without cutting. It has nothing to do with wanting to, and everything to do with needing to.

No one WANTS to quit smoking. But they need to. No one wants to quit doing drugs. But they need to. If you find any kind of unhealthy substance or adduction that brings you relief, you don't want to give it up. But you need to. Because by the time you want to, the smoker will have cancer. The drug addict will be overdosing. It only gets worse with time. Right now is the time to quit. Yesterday was the time to quit. The second you started was the time to quit. Don't put it off any longer.

No, it's not going to be easy. But I do believe it will be worth it when you're looking back in a year remembering when you used to self harm. Sure, you'll slip up, and you will want to cut. But wanting to just doesn't cut it.

I hope this helped, even if it wasn't what you wanted to hear. I'm always here if you need to talk. Hang in there.





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Re: To quit, or not to quit? - February 5th 2011, 07:26 PM

Hey there,

I need to tell you two things before anything else.

1. You went a few weeks without cutting. That's fantastic!
2. Cutting is always a big deal.

And even if it isn't, it's not a healthy behavior to go and open up wounds on your body. Regardless of whether you think it's a problem, regardless of whether you think you should stop... you should.

TeenHelp has a big list of alternatives to self-harm that you should consider taking a look at. In addition... throw away that knife! One of the best ways to stop self-harming is to try and rid yourself of everything that you can use to SH, or that reminds you of SH.

So yeah. That's my advice. I don't know how much you want it or how helpful it was, but in any case... that was it.

Good luck.


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Re: To quit, or not to quit? - February 7th 2011, 10:06 PM

Lizzie,

There is a big difference between wanting to cut and actually cutting. That feeling of wanting to is going to be there in the back of your mind. What you have to show yourself is that you are strong enough to resist that want and stop yourself from cutting.

Remember that is it is ok to want to cut, as long as you dont. Dont be ashamed for wanting to.

As you already know, self harm is not an easy thing to end, but it is acheivable, always remember that. You know that it is bad for you and that you shouldnt be doing it. Stopping self harm is going to be a huge challenge but you can do it.

There is always the possbility of failing a few times before you are able to stop completley. But it is ok to fail as long as you dont give up. Just keep trying and you will succeed.

Good Luck


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