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whats with... - March 1st 2009, 10:33 PM

the whole labelling of 'emo' why does everyone think self harming makes you an emo i dont even understand what emo is how is someone an emo?

its always people that dont understand aswell maybe people should actually research self harm before saying stuff about it

i dont know about everyone else but self harming is my way of coping with things .....


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Re: whats with... - March 1st 2009, 10:40 PM

I hate the "e" word. I can't stand it when someone calls me emo. I refuse to even listen to them. Emo does not equal cutting in my book. Emo is just an annoying word that people stick on cutters. It's a label. Labels are for soup cans, however.


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Re: whats with... - March 1st 2009, 10:44 PM

I feel the same way! People who label others as "emo" are just immature and don't understand. Teenagers usually classify everyone... don't take it personally. It doesn't matter what they think about you. Sometimes kids put their peers down just to feel better about themselves. It's stupid. Love yourself

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Re: whats with... - March 1st 2009, 11:08 PM

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Oh yes. Completely.
This is something that's been drawn to my attention lately and I seriously think that some people need to be educated on the subject. It annoys me so much that people label 'emo' onto everything too. How about, no, actually i'm not an 'emo' I have a problem which im trying to cope with. Stupid comments like that really don't help.
   
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Re: whats with... - March 1st 2009, 11:14 PM

Being called emo is hard to deal with... especially if people don't even know the whole story. I've been called emo quite a few times in the past week... and only because I painted my nails black... no one knows about the cutting.

People just have a need to stereotype people.

I wish I could get this through people's heads: Emos can be cutters and cutters can be emo... but emos aren't necessarily cutters and cutters aren't necessarily emo.


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Re: whats with... - March 1st 2009, 11:25 PM

i got called emo for sayin something was my fault! apparently i'd have been "cutting my wrists next".... they were a bit behind there

i personally hate people labelling each other
   
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Re: whats with... - March 1st 2009, 11:55 PM

What I hate is that I dress,, almost emo? (kinda darkish.) So everyone just assumes that I self harm... And I hate that when I say 'no I don't cut' when they make fun of me, I know I'm lieing.
I'm not sure if that relates but, yea.
   
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Re: whats with... - March 1st 2009, 11:59 PM

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What I hate is that I dress,, almost emo? (kinda darkish.) So everyone just assumes that I self harm... And I hate that when I say 'no I don't cut' when they make fun of me, I know I'm lieing.
I'm not sure if that relates but, yea.

I hate when people accuse me of cutting... and then I lie and say that I don't... that's one of the things I hate saying.


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Re: whats with... - March 2nd 2009, 12:02 AM

I hate when people define those who self harm as 'emo.'
As far as I'm concerned emo is a style but I would never say it's a person.
It's a type of clothes and music, but not a person. I really hate labels, especially when they're put on someone who definitely is not that label. And I've noticed to that the people who call people who self harm emo don't understand or don't care, and make fun of people who hurt themselves.





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Re: whats with... - March 2nd 2009, 12:13 AM

Emo in my book does not equal emotional. Emo is a stereotypical title given to those who appear overly outwards about their problems.

On the other hand, emotional is an appropriate word for self-harmers as their emotions are what's being taken out on their bodies.

Because people are ignorant, they just use emo for both categories.


   
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Re: whats with... - March 2nd 2009, 12:23 AM

Emo was actually originally used to describe certain music. I don't remember how I found that out, but I'm pretty sure that's correct. I think it was for "emotional" music. I can't think of any artists at the moment who would be in that category.
However, I think it should have stayed that way.
Also, it's not just people who don't understand SH & all that call people that kind of stuff. One of my closest friends was called emo during class due to how she dressed wearing mostly black and all. She then told the other kids, "I'm not emo, Emily's the one you should be calling emo if anyone." Needless to say I was pretty angry. But she's one of the people that I always thought I could trust with my SH and all because she had told me before that she understood what it was like.


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Re: whats with... - March 2nd 2009, 01:47 PM

hmmm the term emo is a touchy subject. It started of in the 80's to describe a genre of music, emo is just short for emotional. But as time went on people began to assocaite emo with depression [ the emotinal songs were not usually of the positive variety] and as such depression is linked with self harm. Personally i hate it!! I self harm and i aslo see it as a coping mechinsm [ well an addiction now]. IDK most people who say 'all emos self harm' etc etc etc are people who dont understand what self is like or have any clue about depression.
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Re: whats with... - March 2nd 2009, 04:49 PM

i just dont understand why people associate emo and cutting as someone said above emos can be cutters and cutters can be emo but anyone can cut it doesnt matter if you paint your nails black or pink, if you dress in dark clothes or bright clothes, whether your normally depressed all day or not it doesnt matter what music you listein to ANYONE could be a cutter and thats what people need to undersatand
   
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Re: whats with... - March 2nd 2009, 07:08 PM

The "emo" label is absolutely ridiculous. I know many people who are typically seen as "emo" who don't self harm, and are equally fed up of everyone assuming that they do. Self harm is something which doesn't discriminate, it affects anyone and everyone. Stereotypes like this are just dumb.


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Re: whats with... - March 2nd 2009, 08:01 PM

Yeah, emo did start as a type of music, and stands for emotionally hardcore.
I also hate the whole emo labelling fad.
when i was in school if you told anyone you listened to music other than r'n'b and rap, you were classed as emo.
And if anyone even had a scratch on them, even like the most blatent cat scratch everyone was like OMG YOUR SO EMO!

but even in college, like 2 or 3 weeks ago, i was in psychology and we was discussing abnormality and had to do the general group work questions, and the group opposite me's question was something like "define abnomality" and they wrote, emo's, self harming, EMOS THAT SELF HARM.
and it really did my head in, i felt so much like shouting at them, but drawing attention to myself as a self harmer that isnt getting help was a good plan.

Although TBH, its the whole, one bad apple ruins the lot, kinda situation, you get the occasional person who classes them selves as emo and self harms for attention, shows everyone. And then on everyone who wears the same kinda clothes and listens to the same kind of music. everyone assumes they're the same.


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Re: whats with... - March 3rd 2009, 11:14 AM

i get called emo alot myself and i asked one of the ppl i work with what it means and he said it ment emosional. i hate it...that so called word just gets thrown around. why do ppl need to be labled anything.
   
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Re: whats with... - March 5th 2009, 06:31 PM

Since emo music has been getting more popular, ppl who want attention for themselves (playing the victim....a role I've seen too many ppl act out) have taken the word and made it seem like an insult in today's terms. I used to use the phrase as a joke, but I never call people emo who don't know that I'm kidding. Actually, when I use the word now i MEAN the stupid label. It's not even serious enough for me to get mad about anymore. Although I still get annoyed when someone accuses me of being goth and/or emo :-/


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Re: whats with... - March 5th 2009, 09:04 PM

Just to add to what everyone has already said...

emo is technically a type of alternative rock.
when everyone began calling my friend emo she generally responded with "I still don't understand why you persist on calling me alternative rock"

it amused me.

but you're right, people are too quick to judge and to label. It isn't fair.


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Re: whats with... - March 8th 2009, 06:03 AM

Its a dumb, stupid thing how the relate cutting with being emo... But here's the reason: cuz emo bands say sometimes in songs that they cut themselves so they relate it to that and apparently most people who dress that way with the long hair and stuff cut themselves... Its really dumb and I hate that word.


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