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Relapse and Starting - March 2nd 2011, 12:07 AM

Okay, I have never cutted myself, but I used to dig my nails into my skin and bite myself until I made marks when my life was really screwed up, but I haven't done that in three years and this past weekend I started biting again, I haven't dug my fingers into my skin again, and I'm thinking about starting to cut, I don't want to but self harm is the only way I can get my mind off of things sometime. I don't like the fact that I bite myself, but it's just something I do, and it scares me that I've started again.
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Re: Relapse and Starting - March 2nd 2011, 09:58 AM

Hey there.

I know that sometimes self harm seems like the only way to deal with thoughts and emotions, but it's not. Here's a list of alternatives to self harm; be aware that not every one will work for every person - it's a matter of figuring out what works for you. If you try one and it doesn't help, try another!

Have you tried talking to anyone about this? Friends, relatives, a therapist? It's usually not helpful to keep all this bottled up, and talking to someone can be a helpful, safe release.

You could try figuring out what makes you act this way. What are you feeling when you do this? Why are you feeling that? Isolating negative thoughts and emotions is the first step in overcoming them. Once you know what they are, and where they come from, you can start to deal with them.

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Re: Relapse and Starting - March 2nd 2011, 04:30 PM

Hey there.

I'm really sorry that things have gotten to the point where you're thinking about self harming again. You don't deserve to feel this way at all.

I really want to encourage you to take a look at the link of alternatives that Chess has previously sent you. And she's right, not everything on there will work for you but you can't let the things that don't work stop you from trying the other things.

Trying to find out what the cause to the problem is could be really helpful if you don't already know. I you know some triggers to self harm I suggest you always have a simple distraction like having an elastic band around you wrist at the ready to snap if you have any urges so that what you're out you have something in place. If theres a situation where you know you are going to be in a situation where its likely you will be triggered, ensure you have something there to help you.

Talking to people can be really helpful. Just someone to lean on and go to when you feel really bad. Someone who you can let in to some of your darkest secrets and who can support you in your lowest moments. You can talk to a family member, teachers, school nurse/counselor, your doctor and look into therapy. People love and care about you and they will want to help you but they can only do so if they know what's going on. And I know talking to people about personal things like this can be really scary and hard but it can be so worth it. You can go at your own pace too, you don't have to just start talking about everything straight away. People understand its hard to open up.

Hurting yourself isn't going to help in the long run. You don't deserve to hurt anymore than you already are doing.

Keep you chin up.

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Re: Relapse and Starting - March 3rd 2011, 10:04 PM

Thanks to you both and I'm working on letting people know how I feel, because I do have one best friend and an adult I can talk to about anything, it's just I have major trust issues, and I'm working on not keeping everything bottled up, that's one of my major problems, but I am working on it, because honestly i don't want to harm myself any more either. Again Thanks.
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Re: Relapse and Starting - March 4th 2011, 02:40 AM


It's good that you say you don't want to harm yourself. Honestly, you really don't want to go down that route. I know that's easier said then done, but really when you start cutting, it can be so soo hard to stop.

I know what you mean about trust issues, but it's good that you have a best friend & adult you can talk to and with time you will build up the trust

Hope things start to get a bit better for you lovely
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Re: Relapse and Starting - March 4th 2011, 06:20 AM

That good that you don't want too cut! I don't want you to cut cause when you start you can't stop. It kinda takes over your life!
Have you tryed writing about it or you can take a ice cube and rub it were you want to cut.
Well with the trust issue, I'm like that its hard fore to trust people so I found writing on a peice of paper and giving to them might work.
Stay strong!
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Re: Relapse and Starting - March 6th 2011, 07:28 AM

Thanks for the advice
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Re: Relapse and Starting - March 8th 2011, 08:17 PM

Hey sis. You know my feeling about cutting and that I do it. [Edited] It is your choice none the less. Just make the choice that will hurt you the least. AND IF YOU EVER COMMIT SUICIDE I WILL BRING YOU BACK TO LIFE AND BEAT YOU UP BEFORE TAKING YOU TO THE HOSTIPAL!!!!!!

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Re: Relapse and Starting - March 9th 2011, 05:20 AM

K. I will keep that in mind
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