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Unhappy 2 days is turning into 3 ...but it was almost shortly lived - March 4th 2009, 06:03 AM

So today I got a text from my b/f saying "I think I should back off because it seems like you enjoy spending time with your friends then talking to me" ect.
This kind of got me upset. I love him I really do. But our relationship is hard because its long distance. I am planning on meeting him and moving closer to be with him. But when he said that all that ran through my head was ...."Omg I am going to get upset and I want to go home and cut" ...I was at work. After work me and him were still texting and he was upset. I just want him to know that I love him and I want to be with him. I think going over to my friends house and not coming home was a good idea because it kind of took my mind off it. So I am going on 3 days now and I feel so proud of myself...but like I said there is the possability that I could sink into another depression and start again. I am prepared for it and I am going to try and not let it happen because I want to get better. ... =D and I intend to. <3
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I am thinking about doing it right at the moment but I am trying so hard to resist the urge.... ...
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Re: 2 days is turning into 3 ...but it was almost shortly lived - March 4th 2009, 07:44 AM

hi,
I do not know about the first part but if ur bf really loves u he just needs to know that u love em /if u never told him simply tell him text him *kinda cold but easier some times especially if followed instantly by a call* for de cutting part / try putting a towel a thick piece of eld useless cloth or even a pillow u wnna ruin over ur flesh and cut over it as it gets de emotions out
   
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Re: 2 days is turning into 3 ...but it was almost shortly lived - March 4th 2009, 03:23 PM

Hey,
I think you are doing really well! It must be difficult having a long distance relationship with your boyfriend. Good communication is the key really. It is good you are prepared for the fact that you might begin to feel depressed again. That way when you begin to feel depressed you can do something about it early before it gets worse and you feel unable to pick yourself back up. When you feel like self harming remind yourself of the reasons why you chose to stop. You could also try look at the distractions thread on here, which might be helpful when you feel like self harming. You can do this, I believe in you :-)
   
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Re: 2 days is turning into 3 ...but it was almost shortly lived - March 4th 2009, 06:41 PM

Hey, dear First off, you're so strong for deciding to not let this get the best of you. That takes a LOT of courage to even try.

Your boyfriend, if he wants the relationship to continue (as you seem to), should understand if you tell him that while you love him the most your friends are an excellent distraction when you're too depressed to be comforted by just a conversation. DOING something physically (like exercise; as has been said, the alternatives sticky is GREAT) can have a more immediate effect as to taking your mind off wanting to cut. While you need help where you are, remind your boyfriend that you're working on being closer to him and even if that takes a while you love him and will do whatever it takes to make the relationship work out. Long distance is never easy, and he should know that.

Also, getting a professional opinion on treatment can be really helpful; while cutting is a psychological need that can't be cured by pills, an antidepressant can help the physical depression symptoms and make your urges come slightly less often. Making yourself THINK about it before you actually cut can help...reflect over why you want to, what you can do to maybe avoid this situation, what you can do instead, and why it would be better for you to not cut right now.

Hope this helps...PM me if you want to talk about anything! And good luck <3

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Re: 2 days is turning into 3 ...but it was almost shortly lived - March 4th 2009, 06:45 PM

Gah...computer is being stupid

I want to edit my post, but since it won't let me here's what I want to fix. About cutting being a psychological "need", it's not a need so much as a habit and while antidepressants can make it easier to get past, therapy is the most effective way to fight it and eventually leave the habit behind.

My apologies for bad wording


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When you say "love", I'll say "you"
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Re: 2 days is turning into 3 ...but it was almost shortly lived - March 4th 2009, 08:06 PM

You seem to have such a strong head on you, well done!
Look at the distractions thread (sorry I don't have the link), they have a lot of things for you to do that can help take your mind off it.
You're doing so well, you can keep going, I have faith in you!

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Re: 2 days is turning into 3 ...but it was almost shortly lived - March 5th 2009, 04:11 AM

Since you have other threads relating to this in the self harm forum, I'm going to close this. Please make use of your other threads by updating them instead of creating new ones. Thank you.



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