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Unhappy Relapsed. - March 28th 2011, 10:10 PM

As the title says, today was fucking awful, and I slipped up. I cut. Yep. Goodbye, 3 1/2 Month streak. Ruined, fucking ruined.


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Re: Relapsed. - March 28th 2011, 10:14 PM

Oh Julz,

I am so sorry that you slipped up. But you want to know what that means? You know for sure that you can go at least 3 and a half months with out self harming. And that's more then I can say. I think in times like this you have to figure out what triggered you so bad and be cautious and careful of it in the future. Use this as a learning experience. You might need to design a new coping/distraction plan for when you're triggered. That's okay. It's okay to fall a little bit. But there are loads of people to help pick you up. I know your boyfriend is one of those people. He is an absolute hero in my eye, fyi. Don't let this bring you down. Rise above this, Julz, because I know you can.


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Re: Relapsed. - March 28th 2011, 10:21 PM

Well the problem is, I tried everything to avoid the urge. I was struggling since the moment I woke up. Then I accidentally hurt myself, actually, and that kind of just made me give in.

But, you're right. I did go as long as I did, and well, I'm proud of that. I just, hate that I relapsed. My boyfriend doesn't know, he's been out today, with school, then driving his friend out-of-town. I'm really worried about how he's going to react.

Thanks for replying though, Lynds.


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Re: Relapsed. - March 28th 2011, 10:25 PM

I'm sorry you were struggling this morning. I think it's normal to have slip ups.
Yeah, I can understand why you hated relapsing. I mean, I've been there.
When you tell your boy friend, just be honest with him and ask for his support.
Hopefully he doesn't get mad and will be there for you. He seems like a really great guy.

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Re: Relapsed. - March 28th 2011, 10:29 PM

Hi Julz,
I'm sorry to hear that you slipped up. I think Lynds ^ had very good advice for you. You've made it 3 1/2 months self harm free, and now you know that it is possible. All you can do is learn from this, and keep on going.

Everyone makes mistakes sometimes, and I understand that it's probably frustrating to feel like you have to start all over again. Don't let yourself fall back into old habits. Keep on trying. Slip ups happen, and that doesn't mean you have to start your count all over again. Keep going from where you left off if you'd like. You've gone three and a half months with one slip up. Don't feel like you have to completely start your count all over again. You can decide how you'd like it count it.

I'm sorry you had a tough day. I hope things won't be so hard for you tomorrow. Take care, okay? :]


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Re: Relapsed. - March 28th 2011, 10:56 PM

Thanks, Moyshi and Lynds.

This is actually my 2nd slip-up, and it was bad. I feel I should restart my count. My first slip-up was pretty minor, and I didn't completely go through, so that's no big deal. This time, however, it's pretty bad.

Ah well, guess I'll just dust myself off and get back on the horse, figuratively speaking. I'm going to be completely honest with my boyfriend, he knows how I've felt today, I texted him.

Thank you both for replying though, I truly appreciate it.


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Re: Relapsed. - March 29th 2011, 05:54 AM

By the way, I told my boyfriend. I showed him. He's sad that I've self-harmed again, but he made sure to emphasize that he isn't mad at me. He understands that it's a problem I'm working on, but he hates when I hurt myself.

I've agreed I'm going to keep trying my absolute best, to avoid slipping up again. We're also going to keep trying to get a complete diagnosis and treatment for my mental health stuff. It's been a struggle, but we're still working through it, and have discussed solutions. He's even agreed to drive me to the CAMH Centre if need be, which is about an hour drive, which helps.

So yes, I slipped up today and hurt myself. But, I'm also still committed to working on quitting self-harming, and still committed to getting, well, better.


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Re: Relapsed. - March 29th 2011, 06:25 AM

JULZ! This made me smile!
Once again your boyfriend came through and was amazing.<3
I'm so happy that you have someone like this.
You are so strong and I love your outlook on this.


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Re: Relapsed. - March 29th 2011, 06:25 AM

JULZ! This made me smile!
Once again your boyfriend came through and was amazing.<3
I'm so happy that you have someone like this.
You are so strong and I love your outlook on this.


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Re: Relapsed. - March 29th 2011, 07:04 AM

I'm so sorry this happened. But don't beat yourself up about it. We all make mistakes. Try again. It takes a long time to make it right. I hope you can do this time. Don't give up. you can do this. i have faith in you. If you wanna talk im always here.
   
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Re: Relapsed. - March 29th 2011, 07:26 AM

Lynds: Yeah, he's great.

Chrissy: Thanks. Yeah, I know I can do it, as long as nothing makes me outright relapse.


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