What do i do when the only person i've told is now my ex-boyfriend?

[live.through.this]

I never thought I would ever tell anyone about my cutting. But he seemed to really love me and care about me and he made me feel safe. We had a really strong bond and told each other everything. At the time, I felt that by telling him I would feel relieved and I would no longer feel alone. When I told him he was so supportive and helped me through some really hard, intense moments. I think I only cut about 4 times after that because I would talk to him instead of cutting most times. This went on for about a year. But currently we're broken up but still friends. Now I feel abandoned by him and I feel like I can't talk to him about it anymore, so once again I feel alone in all this and I'm starting to want to cut again. I really need help.

[thexlastxnightx7]

this happened to me before..i know the feeling and it sucks...but just because yall arent datin no more doesnt mean you still cant talk to him im sure he will still be very supportive and help you through it all..you should just try to talk to him and see how everything goes. because if he waas there for you when yall dated im sure he will still be there as a friend even if you think itll be awkward..just try couldnt hurt to try.

[Celestial.]

Hey Whitney.

Talking to someone about self harm can definitely help you feel less alone, and, as Cassie said, just because you aren't dating doesn't mean you can't still talk. I've asked for advice on self harm from people I wasn't in a romantic relationship with, and it worked out well. You mentioned you were still friends, so why not gve it a try?

You shouldn't feel alone, because there's always people who care about you. There's always the good people here at TeenHelp, and here's a list of other people you can talk to. You don't have to get through this yourself, okay?

It might help to write a list of why you want to stop self harm. Things like the damage it does to your body, the negative emotions it causes, the people you care about - anything like that. Then look at that whenever you feel triggered. You could also try some distractions, which can help you get through those urges.

Most importantly, believe you can do this. Remember, whether you think you can or you think you can't, you're right. A positive attitude will get you a long way.

I wish you all the best.