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okay so if any of you have read my blog you know i've been cutitng for about 4 or 5 years. I just recently started doing it daily again. I know i need help but i dont know how to get it. Im 16 my parents think that every teenager is like this. Therapy isn't effective for me so i don't know. I know my parents would consider half way homes and shit but i don't know if thats right. part of me wants to get better but part of me doesn't. The thing is i don't really know the reason as to why i cut anymore. It was my moms drinking and abuse before then i don't know i feel... addicted. I won't be able to defend myself against them if they found out im cutting again. They'll think i only want attention, which i most definitely do not want. i just dont want to take it too far one day you know? Im scared of me half of the time


Then she closed her eyes
And found relief in a knife
The blood flows as she cries
Between The Trees-The Way She Feels

As she sits in the corner
face to the floor
she dispels smoke from from her lips
and slowly floats away with it
lettinggo of so much pain
her tears are thick enough to stain
the pavement that slowly becomes
her best friend when she needs to run away
Between The Trees- A Time For Yohe
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Re: help? - March 10th 2009, 04:59 AM

Hi.
Sorry to hear about this, i very much understand how it feels to not be understood. Your parents probably don't understand, and obviously aren't taking the matter seriously enough. I don't think it's attention seeking at all, i have harmed before, because i couldn't handle the depression, therefore you're right, its not attention seeking, it's about not being able to handle it all, however harming is not the way out, as much as we think it may be. Harming ourselves isn't good to do, despite how relieving it may be, which again i understand, but you can stop this by getting help. It may not be easy to get into straight away but do try, someone will help you to stop harming, they will help you to get out of the habit of wanting to harm, etc. This is something i couldn't go through alone, you may just need someone there to support you through it, like i did. Always tell yourself harming is not the way out, sometimes it takes a while to get it into our brain, but it can help. Secondly, have you ever written how you feel down in a diary? This can help too, especially if you can talk to someone that can help you with all this. For the time you didn't harm, well done, that was a great improvement. Even if it wasn't for very long, you still managed it and you can manage it again, but not just for a short while, but never do it again. As i understand this will take time. I will happily listen to you and try and help.
   
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Re: help? - March 10th 2009, 05:04 AM

thanks a lot actually it's a good feeling to know people out there get it. I knew that they did already but most of the time people are too busy with themselves to care about yet alone take the time to try and help some one whos going through some of the same stuff


Then she closed her eyes
And found relief in a knife
The blood flows as she cries
Between The Trees-The Way She Feels

As she sits in the corner
face to the floor
she dispels smoke from from her lips
and slowly floats away with it
lettinggo of so much pain
her tears are thick enough to stain
the pavement that slowly becomes
her best friend when she needs to run away
Between The Trees- A Time For Yohe
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Re: help? - March 10th 2009, 07:51 PM

Hey Savanna,
You have been self harming for a long time and as you probably know it really is addictive. It can be one of the hardest things to do reach out for help, but once you have done that you can begin to feel better and recover. You have to want to get better and want to help yourself otherwise it can be more difficult. Identifying what made you first start self harming might be the first step. Then see how this has changed now. I guess it has become a coping mechanism for you when coping with difficult feelings. The sooner you reach out for help, the sooner things can begin to change. It can be really hard for parents to understand why their own child would hurt themselves. If you ever need someone to talk to then you are more than welcome to PM me.
   
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