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Unhappy Just told my Best friend...Mistake? - June 19th 2011, 10:17 PM

Sorry for putting loads of questions on , This is the last one for a while so sorry if its irrutating you lot...:L

But i Just told one of my clossest mates that i SH and all she said was "Im speechless" And asked me how long i have been doing it (This was on FB) -- (She's never in school) and then she logged off. I feel really stupid now .

I have told other friends but im not close enough to them to talk about it. xxx


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Re: Just told my Best friend...Mistake? - June 19th 2011, 10:31 PM

You thought you could trust her. I don't think you are stupid hun people deal with things in different ways. Maybe she just needs time. If you guys are as close of friends as you seem to be then she will come around. My mom just found out about my SH and it was a similar scenario. They just don't understand. Maybe you could let your friend know that if she has questions you can try to answer them because she is just upset that you are hurting yourself. She doesn't want you hurt. Just try and talk with her about it is my advice. I hope this was helpful. If you need to talk to anyone you can PM me anytime, I will always respond.
   
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Re: Just told my Best friend...Mistake? - June 19th 2011, 10:40 PM

I think it's likely that she was just shocked. I imagine based on her reaction (logging off) that she wouldn't have guessed you SH. Give her time, and next time you talk to her, let her know you didn't mean to freak her out or anything, and that you just don't know who else you could talk to.

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Re: Just told my Best friend...Mistake? - June 19th 2011, 10:58 PM

She doesn't know what to think. It's upsetting finding out someone you love is hurting. Give her time, she'll come around.


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Re: Just told my Best friend...Mistake? - June 19th 2011, 11:16 PM

Thankyou (: xxx


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Re: Just told my Best friend...Mistake? - June 19th 2011, 11:19 PM

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Re: Just told my Best friend...Mistake? - June 20th 2011, 02:35 AM

I was/am in the same situation as you. I told my best friend that I SH and she didn't really take it how I thought. She never asked about it again or tried to talk to me about it until after about a year I told her again. (Which she is still not much of a help, just making me tell her that I'll try not to again.) I just think some people don't know how to take it that their friend is doing it to themselves. Maybe you should talk to her about it and ask her to help you out.


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Re: Just told my Best friend...Mistake? - June 20th 2011, 04:28 PM

give her time to accept this it may take her awhile when i told my best friend he didnt speak tome for a week and i went crazy but he came around and hopefully so does your freind give her time ok good luck and stay calm about this




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Re: Just told my Best friend...Mistake? - June 20th 2011, 09:57 PM

she might just not know how to react....give her time..
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Re: Just told my Best friend...Mistake? - June 23rd 2011, 07:46 PM

She was probably really surprised. I used to cut and when I told my best friend she seemed so surprised. I guess because we can hide it so well. Recently a good friend of mine told me she cuts and I was shocked.
   
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Re: Just told my Best friend...Mistake? - June 23rd 2011, 08:29 PM

I agree with everyone, it's probably just surprise at the fact that you do that to yourself. I know some of my friends needed time after I told them for the first time. I'm sure she'll come to you later and want to talk about it a little more.

I'm really proud of you for telling her though, and I hope that you try and get over this(:

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Re: Just told my Best friend...Mistake? - June 27th 2011, 06:00 AM

Never apologize for posting too many questions! When you need people.. you need people. I've been in the same situation before.. (I used to SH.. I quit about two months ago) A lot of people react in really odd ways because either they've never really known anyone who has self harmed before or they're just worried.. but eventually what got me to stop is I told my cousin (who is like my best friend) and she started balling. I felt terrible and realized I wasn't hurting myself.. I was hurting those who loved me. She may not fully understand or is reacting oddly because she has to come to understanding with it.. Don't feel stupid. You were honest with her.. What else can she ask for?
   
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Re: Just told my Best friend...Mistake? - June 27th 2011, 01:55 PM

i told my best friend, but not directly. i told her "What would you say if a close friend of ours cut themselves?" and she said "Well i don't know who is it" and i said "i can't tell you." and she said "Cutting yourself is bad and blah blah blah" and so i said "Ok its me." and she said "well im not thrilled, but i won't tell i promise." and that was that. but it wass awkward. i also told my best GUY friend, and he was totally cool about it. he said like "Wow you would" and then we both laughed it off and moved on.
   
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