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When I'm done SHing - July 10th 2011, 02:30 PM

First off, how do I determine whether a thread might be triggering for someone?..

My real question was what about when we're done SHing. When we have finally managed to quit and want to start anew. Will you hide your scars for the rest of your life or let them show to let other people know what you have been through?

Just curious about everyone else cuz I've never taken the time to think that far ahead.

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Re: When I'm done SHing - July 10th 2011, 05:25 PM

Most of the places I SHed was hidden. So I hide the scars I have. When people do see them most of the time they don't say anything. My closer friends have said something and I explain but then let quickly start a new conversation. So I guess it's just how you look at it and what kind of personality you have.
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Re: When I'm done SHing - July 10th 2011, 05:44 PM

I don't self harm on my arms anymore but I don't hide my scars. I wear what I want and if it means my scars are showing then that's fine. I'm not going to spend my whole life hiding away and being ashamed.

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Re: When I'm done SHing - July 10th 2011, 06:13 PM

I still SH but not on my arms, that's probably the biggest regret of my life. I don't hide them because when it is how I can't deal with sleeves, I don't admit to what they are though... I don't think about the future anymore so I don't know what is ahead Xxx

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Re: When I'm done SHing - July 10th 2011, 08:36 PM

That's a good question. I guess it depends who I'm around. At the moment I'm still far too conscious to let anyone see them so I'd rather hide them. I'm hoping in the future that they'll have faded and then i'll feel more comfortable being open. I know one thing though, I'll never feel comfortable enough to wear short sleeves in front of my parents.
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Re: When I'm done SHing - July 10th 2011, 09:01 PM

My scars are on my forearm, so it's not all that obvious it's SH, and I have had a pretty bad van accident when I was in highschool, and it left quite a few scars on my elbow, so I just pass it off as part of the accident. Not that I am ashamed or anything, it's just easier than talking about it in my opinion, since I didn't self harm for the same reason as most people

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Re: When I'm done SHing - July 17th 2011, 02:17 AM

Hm, it depends who I'm around. Most of the time I don't self harm on my arms, but currently I have no choice but to hide it. For any scars that I do have on my arms, I don't think I will hide when I'm around friends or classmates, but when I get older I want to be a doctor (that's a long way away), so it would probably be best of me to hide it when I'm at work if they don't fade.

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Re: When I'm done SHing - July 17th 2011, 03:37 AM

I hide mine by writeing with sharpie on them like right now my wrist say stay strong. But you can show if you want.

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Re: When I'm done SHing - July 17th 2011, 04:45 AM

I will never hide my scars, for I may be ashamed of the SH itself, but never the scars. I won't advertise it, but I won't hide it.

And for the future.. I guess I'd be a bit more open about my experiences than I am now.. But I plan to get a good number of them tattooed over, which I have already been approved of. Those tattoos will have some relevance to my SH or what was going on during that time.. A bit of my story.

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Re: When I'm done SHing - July 17th 2011, 05:56 AM

I have most of my scars on my stomach due to the fact that my parents will kill me
But if it were up to me I would show them to the world. Say this is me. I SH and I don't care what you say. Because you have never been in my place completely. Love me or hate me I don't care
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Re: When I'm done SHing - July 17th 2011, 06:04 AM

I used to SH on my left arm and now I don't try to hide the scars,though I'm still a bit self concious with my movements.Like the other night when I was explaining to a friend what tattoos I wanted to get I demastrated on my right arm instead of my left and I also tend to keep my arm face down instead of up.So I guess I still sorta try to hide it but not completely

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Re: When I'm done SHing - July 17th 2011, 06:05 AM

I don't necessarily hide my scars from people. I wear what I want and do whatever it is I want to do, without worrying about how to hide my scars. But I am still self-conscious about it. If I catch people staring, I turn my arms so they can't see the scars anymore. And I rarely share my story of self-harm.

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Re: When I'm done SHing - July 17th 2011, 07:40 PM

I'm very lucky my cuts were never deep enough to leave a lot of permanent scars. I have three deep, permanent scars on my body, one of them being my wrist, and I wear a wrist band/bracelets over it. The other two are on my legs, and are separated, so when I wear shorts they arn't terribly noticeable, but usually I just wear pants.
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Re: When I'm done SHing - July 17th 2011, 07:46 PM

I have scars on my arms that I don't hide anymore. I'm not going to hide them ever, it gets warm in summer.

I have more noticeable scars on my legs that I don't show as often just since I prefer to wear trousers than shorts and skirts.
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Re: When I'm done SHing - July 18th 2011, 02:34 AM

Luckily I have no scars on my arms, but I have some really thick ones on my thighs. Although you can only see them if I'm wearing shorts or a miniskirt (or bikini, etc) I'm not bothered hiding them for the rest of my life. I'm deeply ashamed of my SH and if anyone asks about them I'll lie, but anyone who sees them and silently assumes, I'm not going to correct them.

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