Female Advice Preferred: I want to self harm.............

[*MusicIsMyLife*]

I really want to self harm. I think that it is my only option at the moment. There are so many things going on. I can't handle any of this anymore.

My friends keep on being really mean to me. They keep on calling me really mean names like they say that I am stupid, ugly, fat, a loser, a loner, and a Failure.

My parents are treating me unfair. They hate me and they keep on telling me that they wish that I never existed. They say that all they care about are my siblings.

I am feeling very worthless, unloved, unsafe, unwanted, lonely, hurt and
unappreciated by people. I feel very lonely and I think I am ugly and that I can't so anything right. No one cares about me.

I think that cutting would be the best option for me right now. It will make all of my pain go away. Everyone will be happy if I end it.

No one understands what I am going through or feeling. I just want someone to listen to me and to not push me away.

Ending it all will be better for everyone because then they won't have to listen to me or care about me and they can all be happy. All I want is for someone to talk to. Cutting will make everything so much better.

Alot of people call me really hurtful names and they don't know how much they hurt and these people are supposed to be my friends. Like they say that people only talk to me because they feel sorry for me.

I have thought about cutting for awhile. I just think that it is the only way that I can end all of this pain. I can't hang on any longer.

[Cali Gurl]

Well no one deserves to be treated like that and im really sorry. I really hope your parents dont mean it. Im sure you are beautiful just the way you are.

Cutting isn't really going to make anything better just cover it up at least thats how it is for me.. Try to stay strong

[TheCrowing]

Here's the thing. Friends who call you names like that or treat you in any way that isn't acceptable are not true friends. You need to find people who will truly appreciate you for you. If a friend called me a failure, and wasn't joking, I wouldn't bother with them any more. You deserve so much better than people telling you that you are a failure. You are not a failure, or any of that.

And trust me, cutting will not make anything go away. It pushes it aside, it just leaves it for later. So think about it. You do it, you feel good. What happens next time when you're feeling this way? You do it again. But it doesn't just disappear. It will all add up, and catch up to you later. I promise that it is better to stop now before you even start. It's closing in on 7 years for me, and if I could tell you one single thing, it would simply be stop now. There are better things to do. Alternatives, or activities. Nobody deserves to do this to themselves. Nobody, including you.

I understand. I can listen. Anytime. PM me. Anything. Don't be afraid to ask for help, because it's all around you.

There are people out there that truly do care for you. Maybe you don't realize they do, but there is someone. You say that it will make everything better, make things better for them too.. but it won't. Think of those people that really do care. Not only are you harming yourself, but SH can also harm the people around you.

[FriendZoneMayor]

Courtney really took the words out of my mouth hon. Stay strong, you don't need to cut, just know that it'll get better.

[Victoria ♥]

Hey Rebecca.

I’m really sorry to hear how bad you’re feeling at the moment. It seems like you’re going through a lot so i can understand why you’re feeling like you are.

I really would urge you not to self harm. Hurting yourself is an unhealthy coping mechanism to deal with how you’re feeling and there are better ways you can express yourself. You might find that if you look through the alternatives to self- harm thread you find something more helpful.

It’s awful that your friends are calling you names like that and it must be really upsetting, particularly since things are difficult at home with your parents as well. Do you think you could speak to them about how they’re making you feel, or are there any other people you can spend time with? You don’t deserve to be treated like that Rebecca and i’m really sorry they’re making you feel this way.

I do think it would be a good idea if you could talk to someone. It can really help to know you’re not alone. Although things are difficult with your parents do you think they’d be more understanding if they knew how you’ve been feeling? How do you get on with your siblings? Do you think you could try talking to them? Another thing i would suggest is thinking about whether there’s an adult you could talk to. Perhaps a teacher, aunt, uncle, or do you have a school counsellor? I can see that you’re feeling lonely but there are always people who can help you.

Another thing you could try would be talking to one of the staff on here, either through HelpLink or Live Help, or you could try looking through this list of helplines.

You can always PM me if you want to talk and i’ll be happy to listen.

I hope you’re doing ok.
Stay strong
Vicky

[daisyduck]

Sweetheart cutting is never the solution. I know how hard it can be. But for me it brought more trouble than help. You have to deal with covering up scars, the guilt from it, keeping it from parents/doctors etc, having the scars, infection, and the scars are basically a constant reminder of why you feel like crap. It may seem like the only outlet but look for others. Writing can be really helpful. PM me if you need to talk. <3