I can't tell :|

[Dark Horse]

I think my mom (maybe) is suspicious of me. She walked into my room yesturday morning for some reason (I wasn't there) and my bed was un-made. The covers where like all over the place and she could see spots of blood on the sheet from when my cuts were bleeding in the night and *stupid me* didnt bother changing the sheets! She confronted me later in the day and asked why there was blood...she asked something like 'do you have your period' I dont really remember. All I did was sort of stare at her. I got really embarrassed and red and just kinda ducked away (I was sitting on her bed drying my hair and she was in the joining bathroom so I sort of just sneaked out of the room). She hasnt brought it up since. Which, in a way, kind of annoys me. She's seen my cuts before when I was like twelve and she didnt do anything. Now she's found blood on my sheets and she didnt do anything. Cant she see that I need help?! But I cant tell her. We just dont have that type of relationship. She's not very understanding about me, and vise versa. She'd probably just think I was looking for attention...she'd never believe that I have a real problem. To me, it feels at bit like she's in denial! I dont know what Im going to do

So people here, who SH: Have you told anyone? If so, how did you do it and who did you tell? Also, what was their reaction?

Thanks

[daisyduck]

I told my old therapist a long time ago, as well as my best friend. That therapist ended up telling my parents (she was legally obligated to) however she didn't tell me that she told them, and they didn't tell me they new, which leads me to the thought that they didn't care, didn't believe, her or like you said about your mom, were in denial.

I really want to tell my new therapist because i feel safe with her, but i can't without my parents finding out about my little slip up.

It really does feel better when you tell though, and if you think your mom already has suspicions, it wouldn't her to talk to her, or someone else you trust about it.

PM me if you need to talk <3

[volleyballchick751]

I told my school counselor, he didnt react he just said ok you can go back to class. Nothing happened after that until 8 months later when I told my aunt and she told my mom. My dad was like "ok, I understand". I'm so glad that I told, I no longer have to hide or live in fear of them finding out.

[Dark Horse]

thanks for the replies I really want to tell. Im just gonna have to work up the courage to do it :P

[.Jess.]

Hey

The very first time I told a professional it was a teacher at school. She was amazing. She had to tell my head of year who spoke to me. He said he wouldn't tell my parents, but that he wasn't going to lie to them which I thought was fair enough. My parents ultimately did find out though, which wasn't great because they sound the extreme opposite to yours, they were over proctective and smothering. Neither is great is it? You just want a nice healthy balance. You have to remember though, as a Mother hearing your child is self harming is distressing and a horrible shock, she could worried sick and doesn't know what to do to help. If you feel you want the support off your Mum and you want to know she defiantly knows about your problem, perhaps sit her down and talk to her? Or even write a letter?

As for telling someone, personally I feel telling someone like a teacher is your best bet. Then you have someone who is there for you each day if you ever need to talk about anything. It's additional support in an accessable environment if things are getting too much for you You're being very brave considering doing this and I really hope you are able to pluck up the courage.

If you need any more support just drop me a message Look after yourself.

[Dark Horse]

Thanks, Jess! Yes, I know that another girl in my class was SHing and she told our class teacher. I think I'll attempt doing that if I can muster up the courage. And I actually did start writing a letter about my self harm to no one in particular...I'll try find it, or write another one. I think it would be easier for me than to talk to my mom in person.

[.Jess.]

That's a really good idea! I mean the thing about writing a letter is it gives you the chance to perhaps put feelings into words that you wouldn't be able to do if you spoke verbally to her, and that'll give her more idea of how you're feeling, which is great Letting her read a letter will help your Mum too, as in, if it's a shock to your Mum that you're hurting yourself it'll give her time to process the information before she speaks to you, then you won't have to face the inital reaction

Have you got a teacher in mind you'd want to tell at school? Mine was my English teacher. She was such a great source of support, it really was invaluable. Do you know if the school will have to tell your parents? If they do, it might be an idea to talk to your Mum first, so she's already aware

Keep us updated won't you? I'd love to know how it goes for you! Take care

[Dark Horse]

thank you for the support