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[Mollie.]

My sister has been away at a mental health place for like the last month.. She was doing good, then she was out on leave with my mum, and she somehow snuck a razor back in. Then again she was doing better, and she ran away with two other patients in a bomb scare and she cut again, deep enough for stitches. Then, she came home for the weekend that just passed, we thought she was doing really well, she seemed happy and doing fine. Today, my dad asked me to search her room to find a box of pills that i found there at the start of the year, they werent there, then i found something.. It was lots and lots of toilet paper, and a shirt.. the toilet paper was drenched in blood, it was still bright red.. this was from sunday, its now tuesday, it was also still slightly damp looking, the shirt was also fairly covered in blood... I told dad and he said yeah shes hurt herself again, and I asked how bad all he said was she needed attention.. We found about 20 razors.. And I asked if she was coming home soon and he said no.. I gave him the suicide note that i found as well.. I also found pictures.. of her cuts.. They are so deep, and it made me so scared.. I dont want her to do too far one day..

I'm sorry if you read all this.. but i just wanted to know, is there anything I can do for her? I just wnat her to get better, but she doesnt want to help herself.. I want my old sister back, but im afraid im going to lose her..

[tamz]

Hi Mollie, I'm sorry you're having to go through this. All too often people who self harm don't realise how much pain & hurt they're causing those around them. I know it's hard but unless your sister wants to help herself, there's not much you can do. The only thing you can do is reassure her that you'll always be there for her, that you love her and if she ever wants to talk to you she can. I really do hope for everyone's sake your sister gets better.

[Palmolive]

Hey there.

I am really sorry that your sister and your family are having to go through this. I can relate to how hard it can be to see a love with suffer from this sort of pain and hurt.

I think it's really good and lovely that you care about your sister so much that you're sat here posting this thread. It proves your a good sister. But truth be told she has to help herself. She's the one in control and she's the one who can really change things for herself. You can be there for her, support her and be a shoulder to cry on so keep reminding her you're there for her and let her know you care and that you just want her to be okay. But at the end of the day she's the one who has got to change herself.

I hope this helps a little. If you ever need anyone to talk to feel free to shoot me a PM.

Take care.
Jessie

[Mollie.]

Thank you both, it did help a bit.. Its just hard, because my sister doesnt want to speak to me ever, its only mum and dad.. i just wish she'd let me in at least, because i sort of know what shes going through, with the self harm and depression, but im not gonna force her.. I just with i could help, because she isnt letting anyone in

[Kristen1995]

You didn't give enough details about your sister, so I have a few questions here:

1. Is her depression the only cause of her self-destructive behaviour?
2. Why doesn't your sister talk to you?
3. How is the relationship between your sis and parents?
4. Is there anyone who she cares for/loves dearly?

Although your sis doesn't talk to you, you still need to show that you cares about/loves her, e.g. in words and even hugs if she allows you to. You are sisters. Whatever happened between you, I think that she would love you back if you showed your love to her. Kids her age want to feel loved and cared, especially when they suffer from depression and feel vulnerable. They need people to keep telling/showing that they are loved. A lot of time their self-worth is dependent on what people think of them as. Even though your dad may be right about the attention thing, she does need professional help and extra attention.

[Mollie.]

Originally Posted by Kristen1995

You didn't give enough details about your sister, so I have a few questions here:

1. Is her depression the only cause of her self-destructive behaviour?
2. Why doesn't your sister talk to you?
3. How is the relationship between your sis and parents?
4. Is there anyone
who she cares for/loves dearly?
Although your sis doesn't talk to you, you still need to show that you cares about/loves her, e.g. in words and even hugs if she allows you to. You are sisters. Whatever happened between you, I think that she would love you back if you showed your love to her. Kids her age want to feel loved and cared, especially when they suffer from depression and feel vulnerable. They need people to keep telling/showing that they are loved. A lot of time their self-worth is dependent on what people think of them as. Even though your dad may be right about the attention thing, she does need professional help and extra attention.

How on earth would i know? The relationship is fine. And are you fucking kidding me? Of course, what do you think her family is to her?
You don't think we dont know that?! Why do you think she is in the mental health place she needs watching 24/7 its that bad.