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Self harm as a way to forget? - August 26th 2011, 06:04 AM

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Have any of you used self harm as a way to forget about something you'd really rather not think about? Or as a way to just stop a specific feeling, and then it becomes harder to remember ever feeling like that in the first place?
I'll do it consciously lately, think of the feeling and how I Do Not Want to feel that way anymore, as I'm SH'ing. In order to try to make it go away.
Is that..normal, or as normal as anything involving SH can be?
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Re: Self harm as a way to forget? - August 26th 2011, 07:53 AM

Look, there are easier ways to distract yourself. I used to be like that. Whenever I just couldn't stop thinking about something that was bothering me, I'd cut, and I'd stop thinking about it and feel better, but then I'd feel even worse after and have to deal with the stupid scars.

I used to think that I could never stop wanting to cut. But I did it. I managed to conquer those feelings, and now I don't cut anymore. I found another outlet. Whenever I feel like cutting, I write. Not like write down my feelings like everyone says, but I write stories to let my emotions out. Now, that's what I do whenever I need a distraction. I channel my feelings into something productive.

Everyone can get through this. I didn't think the feelings would ever go away. But they did, and they can for you too. You just need to believe. Good luck
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Re: Self harm as a way to forget? - August 26th 2011, 01:19 PM

Well, I've self-harmed to try and not think about something, like a bad thought, an argument, etc. I've used self-harm to vent anger on myself instead of to other people. Along with various other reasons (though mostly by impulse, so I'm not always sure).

Self-harm is simple, but complex. Many people have different triggers, methods, areas, etc. But, there are different ways to avoid these urges, whatever your reason. Try the Alternatives Thread.

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Re: Self harm as a way to forget? - August 26th 2011, 05:01 PM

While I can admit to having done that, it's mainly for the adrenaline rush that takes away all of my thoughts. But in the long run, it's bad, because it turns into the normal reaction for negative feelings, and it's dangerous.

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Re: Self harm as a way to forget? - August 26th 2011, 05:10 PM

I'm in no way promoting self harm, but it does make me forget things because I'm consentrating on how to hide my scars. I'd suggest the list of alternatives, but it's already been posted. Hope you can work through whatever's making you sh soon

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Re: Self harm as a way to forget? - August 26th 2011, 05:51 PM

I do it mainly for the adrenaline rush. Which makes me focus on here and now. Not the past. So in a way, yes it does help me "forget" for the time being. However, I don't recommend self-harm as a way to cope with the past or to forget.
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Re: Self harm as a way to forget? - August 26th 2011, 07:07 PM

When I was younger, I used to SH thinking that I could forget.. but I was never able to. Now I realize that SH actually helped me remember things.. feelings, places, people.. And it became this terrible thing, because the more I did it, the more I remembered.

Even though I'm the opposite as you, it's still best to find an alternative as soon as you can. It really isn't healthy to use SH as a method of forgetting/remembering.

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Re: Self harm as a way to forget? - August 26th 2011, 07:28 PM

I use SH to distract myself from some thought or feeling. I focus on the cutting instead of the feeling. Of course, there are a lot better alternatives out there.

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Re: Self harm as a way to forget? - August 26th 2011, 08:52 PM

I used to use self harm alot to block things out. I still do use self harm as a way to block certain feeling and emotions out that i didn't want to feel. I'm not very good at dealing with feelings or emotions so it was a good wany of making sure i didnt have to deal with it. But now i am trying to find a way to get round it, i havent found anything yet, although i did start to write songs, that was a bit of a relief for me. They're not very good but they are the one thing that is there to describe how i feel without me having to feel it. But different things suit different people. But i will let you know if i find a way to get around it. Just stay strong! It is all i can say!
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