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Is it really my fault? - August 26th 2011, 09:56 PM

My best guy friend found out I'm suicidal and cut himself
Then he showed me his arm and said it was my fault. He said i should just leave him alone cuz he didn't need that on his arms.
I feel bad, but was it really my fault? I hate when he does that, and he knows it. So why am i getting the blame?
Is it my fault or not?


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Re: Is it really my fault? - August 26th 2011, 09:59 PM

Hey there.

I want to make sure you know what he did is not your fault. You for one did not make him hurt himself and for two we're all in control of our own actions. HE hurt HIMself. You don't need to blame yourself. And I really hope you stop blaming you because it's pressure you don't need at all. No one is to blame for someones self harm. Don't feel bad for it.

I'm also sorry you're feeling suicidal. I don't know whats gone on but I wanted you to know we're here for you if you need anyone. You CAN beat this.

I hope this helps. PM me if you need anything.
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Re: Is it really my fault? - August 26th 2011, 10:05 PM

Hey Maggie,

I'm so sorry to hear your friend is saying these things to you, it must be awful to have to listen to him saying these things. You must remember that each person is responsible for his or her own actions. Ultimately what they choose to do or not to do is their own personal decision. It sounds to me he is trying to find someone to blame for what he has done to himself and unfortunately it's you he is blaming. Do you think it would be a good idea to stay away from him for the time being? If he's going to be saying these horrible things to you, it isn't going to be helping you and your problems at the moment

Saying that, have you any help and support for your self harm and suicidal thoughts? If you haven't I'd strongly suggest to talk to a professional around you about these. Getting yourself some help and support may make all the difference to how your feeling. Maybe talk to someone like a teacher?

I hope your going to be okay, if you ever need anyone I'm here. Take care


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Re: Is it really my fault? - August 26th 2011, 10:31 PM

Hey Maggie,

I just want to let you know that you are not at fault for his self-harm. He hurt himself. You didn't force him to do anything. I really hope that you both stop blaming you because it's NOT your fault.

Also, I'm sorry you're feeling suicidal. If you need to talk or anything, feel free to PM me. I'm here for you. You can make it through. <3

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Re: Is it really my fault? - August 26th 2011, 10:33 PM

IT IS NOT YOUR FAULT!!!!!

GOD GAVE US FREE WILL AND HE MADE THAT CHOICE. I UNDERSTAND THAT IT IS IMPULSIVE BUT HE STILL MADE THE CHOICE TO CUT HIMSELF!

I LOVE YOU AND ITS NOT YOUR FAULT!





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Re: Is it really my fault? - August 31st 2011, 08:48 PM

Thanks everyone
He's still blaming me, but i know now that its not my fault
Thank you


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Re: Is it really my fault? - September 3rd 2011, 05:37 AM

No it's not your fault. Sorry but your friend is an ass hat. He's using your problem as an excuse for his cutting. Sweetie suicide is a permant soulution to a temp. problem don't do it. You will actually hurt more people if you kill yourself. It's not worth it.
   
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