How will you explain?

[Nomophobia]

If/when you have kids, how will you explain your SH scars? Just curious

[escape_thereal_world]

Well, if they ask when they are young, I will just be vague and say something like, "Mommy got hurt a long time ago". But when they're in their teens and they ask, I'll likely tell them the truth. "Like many people, I suffered from depression and I harmed myself. I'm telling you because I want you to know that I was a kid once too and you can talk to me about anything"

Use it as a lesson and a way to connect.

[PutYourHeartsUp]

Honestly, I doubt I'm going to have the scars still when I have kids. The kind of scars I get disappear within a few years. But, if they were still there I'd do pretty much what Kelly would.

[Dez]

This is an interesting question that I never put much thought into.
I'd probably do what Kelly said as well, or maybe just say that I was sad a few years ago or something, but if they're old enough to understand then I'll just say why.

[Thirteen]

Pretty much what Kelly said. Shrug it off and say "Mommy got ouchies a looooooooong time ago", but then when they're teens, explain to them.

[horselove66]

Originally Posted by Thirteen

Pretty much what Kelly said. Shrug it off and say "Mommy got ouchies a looooooooong time ago", but then when they're teens, explain to them.

ditto! i'll prob. explain it to them when they are older. (maybe0

[Discombobulated]

If the scars are still visable, because mine are starting to fade already and i can only see some of them because i know they are there.
But if they are young i will say something along the lines of what others are saying, that i got hurt when i was younger. But when they are teenagers would tell them, and be honest with them about the world and then they know that they can talk to you about anything.

[blumemusik♫]

Same as everyone else I guess.

When they're under, say, 8, I'd say "I got hurt a long time ago."

8 - 12, "I hurt myself" (vague, see? Double meaning."

12+, the truth, and then turn it into a lesson, and tell them they can talk to me about anything, and that if they ever do cut themselves, it'll never go away. Proof in the pudding.

[Le bonheur*]

Originally Posted by blumemusik

Same as everyone else I guess.

When they're under, say, 8, I'd say "I got hurt a long time ago."

8 - 12, "I hurt myself" (vague, see? Double meaning."

12+, the truth, and then turn it into a lesson, and tell them they can talk to me about anything, and that if they ever do cut themselves, it'll never go away. Proof in the pudding.

This. I've been thinking about this question for a long time now and I couldn't come up with any answers but Kate hit it right on the dot.

[Troubled_Heart]

I would say that they're just childhood scars, from climbing trees and falling over unless I felt they were mature enough to understand which I guess depends on the child But I can't imagine myself having kids so hopefully I'll never have to explain it all...
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