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Question Self harm into habit - October 15th 2011, 12:26 PM

When I was about twelve/thirteen I self-harmed because I was being bullied at school. I felt that no one cared about me and no one noticed that I was hurting. However, I moved schools when I was fourteen and made lots of friends at my new school. I no longer felt unloved etc., but I still self-harmed. I'm now 18 and at university, I have no reason to self-harm but I still do it out of habit. No one has noticed so far but I worry that they will and I have no explanation for why I do it. I'm worried people will judge me or think that I'm just doing it for attention. Has anyone else experienced this? What should I do?
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Re: Self harm into habit - October 15th 2011, 01:02 PM

I found that I self-harm even when I have no reason to. It's pretty weird but that's what addictions/habits are. When you feel like self-harming maybe you can go find something else to do. Do homework, draw, play a game, watch a movie...etc. Pretty much distract your mind and find something else to fufill the hunger to self-harm. It's going to be hard at first because you're so used to it and it's been 6 or so years but it'll get easier with time. Do you have anyone to talk to about this? Like in the real world? If not, I suggest you find a friend to talk to or a counselor. Also, I'm here if you ever need to talk. Feel free to message me if you ever want/need to.
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Re: Self harm into habit - October 15th 2011, 02:31 PM

I get what you are saying, I'm that way too.
I sometimes SH and I don't really have a reason.
I think you should try checking out the alternatives thread if you haven't yet. There are a lot of great alternatives listed in there and they can help for all different situations and times.
Mostly though, you have to find ways to ddistract yourself from wanting to SH, you have to try your hardest to not give in to the urges. This takes time and in the process you may slip up, but as long as you figure out what works for you and what distractions don't work for you, you can find things to do instead of SH.
I know it's not easy, but it is possible to quit.
I hope you are doing well and if you ever need anything, you can PM me and I'll be glad to help or just chat.

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