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Is This Still Bad? - October 20th 2011, 01:04 AM

A couple weeks ago, I was talking to my mentor about some of the things I do. She said that any destructive behaviors that I do need to stop. I took that to heart, so I stopped cutting myself. Now, I wear a rubber band around my wrist. Every time I get the urge to cut myself, I snap it. One of my friends told me that it's not any different. She said that even though I'm not physically hurting myself, it's not any better. Do you think that's true??

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Re: Is This Still Bad? - October 20th 2011, 01:22 AM

Depends on how you feel about it. Technically you are hurting yourself. I know it helps my friend out, and I respect that as long as it doesn't leave a mark on her, but personally for me, I count it as SH because it usually either triggers me more or I subconsciously do it until I leave a mark.

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Re: Is This Still Bad? - October 20th 2011, 01:30 AM

I count it as an alternative to self-harm. It gives you the sensation that you want to feel when you'd normally self-harm but without the nasty effects of self-harm such as scars. I don't think it's bad at all if it's stopping you from cutting. Congrats on stopping, by the way.
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Re: Is This Still Bad? - October 20th 2011, 02:11 AM

As what was previously said, it's an alternative, so it is not just as bad. It gives you the feeling without actually hurting yourself, just like holding onto cold ice. Good job on stopping and finding an alternative that works for you!

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Re: Is This Still Bad? - October 20th 2011, 02:24 AM

I don't believe it's even necessarily a matter of what you're doing or how, I'd consider it more a conflict of intention...

What you need to overcome isn't your self-harm with sharp objects, it's what's triggering you to hurt yourself in the first place, the motivation to do so. Whatever's making you feel like you deserve that kind of pain on a regular basis is what you should focus on conquering, because at the end of the day cutting won't kill you; it will be, well... yourself (not physically, but emotionally) - you will live happier and overcome your self harm if you can identify and cope with the cause of it, rather than find safer alternatives. While that is a great short-term solution, it will not always serve to prevent you from relapsing - you need to kill the problem at the source.

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Re: Is This Still Bad? - October 20th 2011, 04:36 AM

I think it can be a good alternative, it just depends. For some people, it's a good way to "wean" yourself off of SH, since it's not as destructive. For others (like me), it's triggering and I end up hurting myself quite a bit with the rubber band. It is generally counted as an alternative, though.
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